Skin to skin after birth
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I don’t think it’s wrong and the midwife’s with first never even said to me about it. It was only when I got home both my husband and myself did it. You do what is best for you x
I wanted my baby “clean” and in a blanket/towel before skin to skin and the midwives were fine with it and respected my wishes You’re not wrong for wanting what you want and they should respect it it’s your labour, your delivery, your birth not there’s
Is that you don’t want him to have skin to skin with you or at all? Because there’s the option of having dad do skin to skin until you feel ready to try it yourself.
It’s not wrong, and I’m sorry you had a traumatic birth. I hope you will have someone in the room with you who will help insist on what you need if the midwives are being funny. You may also change your mind on the spot, but ultimately it’s your decision. I was upset it took my midwives 7 minutes to bring me my baby, and I’m still a bit angry about it a year later and wish I spoke out right then
Hand baby to dad. My husband did some skin to skin too and that helped him bond.
It's your prerogative, you do you and I agree with others, if the dad is in your life of course,he could do it if he wants to. Also maybe talk to someone about the trauma you have, that might help. You could change your mind seeing your baby too
Your body, your decision. I'd make sure your birth partner is fully aware of this so they can advocate for you on the day. Skin on skin with dad (if he's there) is a great idea. Sorry you went through a traumatic birth. I hope this one's a positive one xx
@Sally unfortunately I don’t have a birthing partner so the baby will have to go to a midwife .
Nothing wrong with it at all! Do what’s right for you. Everyone’s journey is different. There’s no right or wrong here as long as you’re both safe, healthy and supported
Might it heal a part of you to do so if you have a positive experience this time? Xx
I don’t think it’s ‘wrong’ per se but it’s not very fair for your baby in my opinion. He’s going to get pushed out of his nice warm home and not be able to have a warm cuddle with his comfort. There’s lots of information about how important those first hours are. Maybe your partner might do it? If you have one?