Does your baby fall asleep on their own in their crib? (I.e. no rocking or feeding to sleep)

No, and it’s not a healthy or reasonable expectation to have for a such a young child. Sleep training can get some babies there but it’s more harmful than good.

I did not sleep train. At 15 months old she started to do daytime naps with just a head massage while she lays down. This isn’t every day, but it’s getting more and more frequent.

I put my little girl down with some music on and sometimes have to go back in a couple of times to give a dummy or roll her back onto her back but she just plays around then goes off to sleep on her own. No sleep training my boy was exactly the same!

We did some sleep training from around 5 months, alongside of a really consistent sleep routine and our daughter often puts herself to sleep and sleeps for decent stretches most of the time with 1-2 wake ups. She is healthy and happy and gets more sleep now, and so do I (which makes me a better mum!)

There are some horrendously judgy mums on here which I think is sickening!!! I sleep trained at 5 months using a modified Ferber method. Took about 3/4 days to click. It was the greatest decision we ever made. My child is not ‘damaged’ in anyway. She is the happiest most secure baby I’ve come across. She sleeps like an angel aswell. We have two 1.5 hour naps in the day and 12 hours of solid sleep through the night. All sleep is done in her cot and she goes to sleep by herself. She also got rid of her dummy herself at 6 months old. My LO has a perfectly secure attachment type even now. She is able to independent play, she’s sociable, she’s always happy and hardly ever a grouch, the regressions don’t hit her so badly and I’m sure it’s because she’s getting all the sleep she needs. Please do make decision about what is best for you and your family and not what judgy mums on here say. Good luck with whatever you decide to do xxx

Yes within a couple minutes at night and for naps (she started doing that without any training). We started sleep training last week as she’s a terrible sleeper and was waking constantly + feeding every 2-3 hours. It’s going pretty well!

I never looked into what sleep training was after I had my twins but I have always left them 10 to 15 minutes to see if they self soothe…with two I don’t always have a choice anyway! And they go to sleep on their own and sleep 12 hours a night plus 2 day time naps. One of the twins gets worse if I try to soothe her, she needs to just settle herself which doesn’t take long, I usually put some music in for her.

@Francesca when you say modified Ferber method can you explain that a little bit more for me please?

We didn’t sleep train as such, we pop our LO down after cuddle, say night and then only go in when she cries. Pick up put down methods worked really well for us, my child isn’t damaged. She knows if she cries we will go in to her so she knows she’s safe. When not in a regression or teething she settles herself quickly, sleeps well and is on 2 naps a day. (8 nearly 9months old) xx

@Nikita yes course :) I say modified because I changed the time increments to what I was comfortable with. When you put baby in their cot and they start to cry the ferber method says you should go into the room to comfort baby briefly at increasing time increments of 3-5-10-15-25 minutes until they fall asleep. Those time increments were too long for me so I did 2-4-6-8 minutes. The method still worked for us xx

Nope But he does fall asleep in bed with us and sleeps through so we will be co sleeping until he doesn’t want to anymore (we still semi co sleep with our 3 yr old too. He goes to sleep in his room and often comes in in the middle of the night) It doesn’t work for everyone but we both work full time and having him sleep through (but with us) is better than multiple cot wake ups and I love sleeping with my babies and waking up with them :)

We sleep trained and its the best thing we ever did. He falls asleep for naps and bedtime himself with rarely any wake ups. We did 3 min check ins if he was crying with some patting and after a few days it clicked for our LO. Key is to make sure they are super super tired, otherwise they'll struggle to fall asleep independently

Yes he falls asleep on his own, didn't sleep train so I've no idea how he got there, but he doesn't like contact naps in the day either, he gets all wriggly being cuddled, so just prefers to go to sleep independently I think x

I just waited for sleep signals, put him down and he’d fall asleep on his own within 15 minutes, no crying or moaning. Is that classed as sleep training or am I just lucky?

@Louise I think you’re just lucky but also intuitive for using sleep signals! 💜

@Beth I mean I don’t even follow a strict nap/bed schedule, he sleeps when he’s tired🫣x

I posted this last night after trying to transfer my son 6 times into his crib after rocking to sleep lol. I’m in a rut of falling asleep whilst sitting up feeding him in the middle of the night, meaning my neck and back ache. It’s unsafe for me, unsafe for him, unsustainable. He wakes every 1.5 hours… which I know is on the spectrum of normal for a baby! Husband thinks we should sleep train, no pressure on me to do it and he says he’ll do whatever I want. I’m in two minds now he’s a bit older. Anyway, the discourse on sleep training could go on forever. You just have to do what works for you…. Which is fine if you can make a decision unlike me lol!!!! Just curious which is why I made a poll. Thanks for all the comments!!!

I also go back to work in July and because I feed to sleep mostly (we are just starting rocking instead, which he cries for my husband lol so he cries sleep training or not!) it’s not going to be a fun time for me if we can make something work.

@Leanne absolutely depends on temperament and you’re lucky in this aspect! 💜💜💜💜

@Louise same here tbh!!!

Yes, didn't need to sleep train just let him figure it out on his own 😀

We did semi sleep train. Just let him whine a bit for max 5mins on his own and he’s fallen asleep before 5 mins probably 80% of the time. The other 20% he just needs a bit of help so I go in and tap his bum until he drifts off, or if he’s really not happy, then I pick him up and sway and sush him until he drifts off. He’s such a happy calm baby so it’s worked for us so far xxxx

I didn’t exactly sleep train but I started patting my twins bums, then holding hands, then, when they seemed to be more confident falling asleep I would just sit on the chair beside them. This week I managed to move to the end of the room, eventually now I put down to say goodnight and leave the room. No tears - and both my girls know their voice so this process has not been stressful for them in the slightest x

With dummy