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Hey! Does she have any red flags like reflux, tongue tie, mouth breathing when asleep, snoring, any latch problems, gassy or constipated or frequent diarrhoea? X
@Gemma No, she doesn’t! 🥲 I met another SAHM who also EBF and co-slept who experienced the same. I keep getting told it’s because I’m feeding to sleep overnight. 🫠
I EBF my twins to sleep, one will sleep through the night on occasion but on a normal night they each wake 1-2 times
I was anti sleep training, but I found a few places that did gentle sleep training i.e. static interval resettling until they are calm, then they learn to put themselves to sleep. Like, oh, I know this is my sleep time now, Mum/Dad are still here, I am ok. We did it at 13mths and honestly wish we did it at 6mths in hindsight! She went from several wakes to feed to sleep overnight, to none, slept 12hrs consistently and 3hrs total across 2 naps during the day. She is so much happier for the extra sleep! Highly recommend into sleep training that uses a static interval approach i.e. it's consistent, and baby learns to settle into sleep on their own which I now know is an important life skill (and for everyone!). I look forwardn to 7pm and her naps now as I know she sleeps well, and I also get to catch up on all that sleep deprivation! 😆
@Zara Are you referring to the Ferber method? I was trying to look up static interval sleep training, but it’s describing what I know as the Ferber method where you check in at 5, 10, then 15 minutes and spend roughly 20 seconds reassuring them and leave to let them cry a little more.
Nah feeding to sleep is natural and a really normal way of settling our little ones! If she’s waking so frequently it suggests there’s something else going on. When she’s asleep does her tongue rest in the high palate of her mouth? Have you tried keeping a sleep and food diary and looking for any patterns? X
No not ferber, it is only static 10min intervals during naps and 20min intervals at night. No increasing intervals. My resettling goes for 4-5mins. And it is only patting (so no more picking up to nurse then rock!). They are trained educators and it was a 5 day residential program at a hospital. So GPs and Pediatricians saw us and also on call to make sure there is nothing underlining the frequent wakes. See what programs are available, and if your private health covers it or go public. You are in control the whole time, nothing forced, you also get training with how conditioning works in psychology and what to do when there is an illness etc. So much knowledge and guidance provided. But this was in Melbourne, Australia. Turns out my LO was waking for comfort, which was boob, and she just needed support to be comfortable to settle herself and know I was always there consistently and could rely on that. Highly recommend, do lots of research to see what is available and also word of mouth recommendations.
Waking overnight is normal but that does seem like an excessive amount! She may be having some discomfort. I would maybe try some chiro or craniosacral therapy to see if that helps!