Single mom of a 3 year old
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What worked for me, is teaching them about feelings and communicating them. I have taught my son to verbalise what he’s feeling when he starts crying, I ask him what are you crying about. Then we talk about a solution. If sous start crying again then I say to him, can you hear me & if he says no I say to him because your crying so you can hear me. If the he doesn’t like the solution, I say to him, I’m gonna give you time to calm down and I send him to his room or I tell him I’m going to walk away for us both to calm down, eventually after 5/8 mins when he’s not screaming. I go back up to him and try and speak to him & just do that on repeat until he’s calmed down then get to the solution. 🤷🏽♀️ Also this method keeps you calm & baby calm. If baby sees you worked up then they will get worked up. Honestly, it’s just about standing your ground and letting the child know who is in charge. My sons 4 btw
I have a 6 year old I had when I was a teenager too. It’s really hard, I did it alone as well. Validating their emotions, letting them know it’s okay to be sad/mad/etc but not to hurt others. Ultimately you have to let it not bother you as you are doing nothing wrong. They don’t have control over their emotions / reactions yet and we do! I find yoga, meditation, journaling, even listening to anxiety frequencies etc always help me relax when we were going through the same thing. It’ll be better before you know it💕💕Hang in there
Also now I’ve found if you make them laugh it shortens the tantrum by quite a bit lol
@Autumn Thank you so much for the message! It’s nice to know i’m not the only one going through it. Did you ever feel like you’re doing something wrong even when you’re doing everything you can? Sometimes it just feels like if i’m not perfect all the time, i’m failing her. I’m the only one she has and it’s a lot of pressure
Omg of course! I still struggle with thinking im a bad mom sometimes, or doing something wrong. But bad moms don’t worry if they’re bad moms 💕
Do you have parents who can help you to take breaks? That helps. You could also read books on this particular phase and how to deal with behaviour? It must be so hard. I have just entered the tantrums phase with my boy.