Alone

I would simply say if that’s the job you want and that’s the life you want then you can have it but I simply don’t wish for the same life as my perspective, my days, my work is different from yours and is now completely one sided. You didn’t bring a child into this world, BOTH of you did and he shouldn’t be taking a job without discussing things through with you first and deeply. He has to come to an understanding that he’s just flipped your guys dynamic and world upside down. I wholeheartedly feel for you. He should be prioritising his family’s needs as well. It’s easy for people to say they want this job because it offers more money, but if they are barely there, if you’ve got a newborn and no one to help and you’re not on board with that(it’s okay not to be)then it makes everything a whole lot harder for you. A lot of women that are in this situation or similar say they feel like a single mum. You both have to try meet each other halfway. If this thing isn’t working out already

And he can’t come home then he needs to take your feelings into consideration. He’s unreliable. What happens if something happens to your child and he can’t get there? Is that a risk he really wants to take for a job? There are so many things that come from this. There can be good as well but it’s a lonely life. I have been in the same boat and you have to speak how you feel for the sake of your sanity and for the betterment of your life as well as the things you want in your life too. I’m so sorry though and I hope you can figure it out. You’re 100% right in feeling how you do

My husband also impulsively left for a job and I found out the day of. I was almost 7 months pregnant at the time. I'm in a state with absolutely no one, but one friend that I met while here who is oftentimes traveling. He was gone for 2 months. I ended up being induced early and was alone with only my doula when my son was born by c-section. He came back 4 days after. I literally don't know what goes on in the minds of these males. I'm sorry that he did that to you. I don't have much more than that. My son will be one next week, and my husband has apologized and realized the wrong, but I'm still working on forgiveness.

Wow, thank you ladies for sharing. I felt like the only woman in the world that this would happen to. And to make matters worse. I have to answer for his absence. Everyone is questioning why would you be left alone with a newborn? And I just got my car back from the workshop. When he left I had no transportation. Spent my first Mother’s Day without him too. I have to give him an ultimatum because I can’t function like this. I didn’t ask for this. We didn’t plan for this. Forgiveness will come only with time. But trust is broken. It’s going to take serious work to make this right. I’m barely sleeping at night.