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I had to be induced at 42 weeks and I had planned to try for an unmedicated birth. At that time I thought 1 and done. I ended up with an epidural and c section and it went better than I anticipated. I thought, I can do this again…. Now with a feverish and teething 8 month old, and I got sick myself… Im thinking man, it would be hard to imagine this with 2!! I go back and forth, as I wanted him to have a sibling, but it can be so difficult at times. 🫶
I go back and forth so much. I find myself thinking back on my pregnancy, labor and c section and think “it’s not so bad” but then I remember myself saying “wow I never want to do this again” because of all the difficult and painful details. Then theres being torn about giving my LO all my attention vs splitting it with another child, and whether or not he’d have a good time with his sibling if he had one and just ahhh. It’s hard to decide . In perfect dreamland I want another one but there’s a lot of pain and fear and discomfort that I have to come to terms with before deciding.
Come back to this subject when your kid is 2or older and you’ll think differently Always happens 🤷🏽♀️ Somehow you forget most of the bad and want another baby
Right after my scheduled c section I was like “oh hell nah” but now that I’m so in love with him I want at least 1 more if not 2 more. I think it’s best to decide later on though so you have lots of time to process!
I used to think 4 for sure! I now have my first two and I think 3 will be plenty for us. There are times where juggling two seems like it will be the end of you but we are just starting to get into the stage where they interact and play with each other and watching them laugh and giggle with one another is sooo worth it. I had 2 siblings growing up and we are all very close so I knew I wanted to give the same to my kids. Built-in friends. BUT I do understand that not everyone will agree so definitely revisit the idea when you’re feeling more in the swing of things! And especially when you’re mentally and physically recovered from your birth experience! I had an unplanned C-section with my first and an unmedicated VBAC with my second. Very different experiences and recoveries. Unplanned/emergency csections can take a lot of time to mentally recover from.
You’re not alone. After my c section & the recovery…1 and done too! 😅