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Oh Hun I'm there with you, I have her 24/7 and I was getting like that until I started seeing things through her. We're literally all they have we are there support and safety, I started giving her little jobs and that to do on her own and it's been huge because now she sees that yes I'm there but she doesn't always need me. If you need anyone to talk to I'm here

It is hard but you are her everything. Even more so because she doesn't go to nursery. I think you should have a break every week even for a few hours where she goes to someone else and you get to do your nails or do whatever interests you. That way, when you come back to her you will feel like you have been reset xx

Thanks Heather and Emma, I hear you I am her world, I wonder if the problem for me is I don’t want to be. Not in a horrible way but it’s clearly having a negative effect on me, the constant neediness. She is constantly (sometimes literally) up my backside and calling “mummy mummy mummy” !!! This age is just not enjoyable for me, I’ve felt that for a while now. On top of all that my child will hit (she has always resorted to fight out of fight/flight) and I find that angers me too. I do give her jobs to do :) Her dad has started to take her out for a few hours weekly, so yesterday I had 3 hours to myself (I cleaned and sorted through storing things in peace) but still it doesn’t take long for me to get annoyed/irritated again. Anyway thanks again both of you x

Oh I meant she hits at other children not at me^ :(

So sorry you feel like this. Would you consider having a family member watch her once a week or putting her in childcare. It might not be the right thing for you but I think overall having some things that you do for yourself by yourself and just separate your different obligations (the different parts of you) could help. Like when it’s work your in work mode, when in mamma mode just be mum and then also having time just to be you. Of course we can never switch off being parents completely we’re always thinking about our little bubbas but some routine and space for yourself may help x

@Tia thanks for your message, I really agree with you about separating the different parts, atm they all merge and sometimes I don’t feel like I’m doing any of them well like that! Sometimes I feel really low, like when I first wrote this post! But it dips up and down, I’m trying to have more breaks, go to the gym etc Thanks again everyone xx

If you ever want to chat about it just message hun. Keep going, like you said, you are her world which means you are doing everything right even though you don't feel like it. She clearly loves you which says it all 🥰😍😍. It's so hard being a mum because you really do lose your whole self. Xxx