Raising a bully😓

Put him in behavioral therapy immediately if you just yourself cannot discipline him. That sounds insane… he just seems to be mischievous but it comes to a point it’s not ok. For example, making your child bleed up their back who can’t even walk… and pushing her legs making her fall.. A good ahh whoopin might help if you can fathom. If not then go to a children’s behavioral center to get him evaluated and treated.

@Alana definitely want to do something because he starts preschool soon and I cant stand him harming my other child let alone other parents kids, thank you I was feeling helpless because anything I do doesn’t help his behavior even if I cater to him making sure he’s distracted or moves on it’s hard with multiples

I know its hard when your busy I don't always give the time that I need to discipline but here goes. Every time he starts getting mad before he gets physical if you can you need to explain in a firm but not mad voice that his behavior is unacceptable. When lashes out yoz get down to his level and tell him that he cannot do..... Then put him in time out. Before you leave the area explain what he did wrong and how long his punishment is. He will get up, probably scream etc. The first few times explain again but if it continues just keep putting him back. It can take an hour sometimes of constantly putting him back and at not time can you show angry or engage with him. Once he has completed the full time about 4-5 minutes of time our with running, screaming etc. Let hime out. The time restarts evey time you have to put him back.

The hardest thing is to not show you angry. You have to breathe and show indifference during the punishment. He is testing boundaries. You have to show that you are in control. This is just one way. If he acts out in public you get down to his level in the same firm but not angry voice " This behavior is not acceptable if you continue to .....we will leave. " but you must follow through. Don't yell or loose your temper.

Get him evaluated for both autism and also a personality disorder. I know that sounds harsh, but he's around the age where they start showing signs and if there's a chance it's something serious, intervening now is the best thing you can do. Just remember that no matter if he has a disorder or is just a bully, that's not a reflection on you as a mother as long as you love him through it ❤️ You're doing what's right by prioritizing the safety of EVERYONE

It’s a great start you’re opening up about this and willing to accept advice and support! That shows a good mom. I agree with the others and definitely recommend speaking with his doctor and be as direct and blunt about the situations that have been occurring inform them of what methods you been taking and also his reactions. If they say “let’s keep an eye on it” document for yourself and your child! Then bring it back up if it’s still having issues within I say 60/90 days. Demand testing demand behavioral therapy! Now is the age where it’s very important to start really enforcing boundaries and teaching about respect. It just so happens that this age is all about pushing boundaries.. sucks ikr In the meantime and in between time I say stick to ONE method for 30 days l. Consistency is key. If you notice that method hasn’t worked… try another one after 30 more days. Document document! Be on him like white on rice do not give leeway he had showed you he cannot just take an inch

He takes a mile and some people/kids just need that very tight schedule Bo free time…I’m keep him busy with task. Ask him to come help you do XYZ just the two of you. During that time make small meaningful talk. Then when you’re done say “thanks for helping me” “thanks for playing with me” and explain that you’re all done and later on you both will do something else. He may react but use your method of the month. It’s going to be hard and ugly and sad and hurtful. But we can do hard things! ♥️♥️♥️♥️ Signed a preschool/pre-k teacher I gettttt it 😅♥️

My three year old does this😭

just sounds like a normal child to me, i feel like people are too quick to “online diagnose” children/adults in this sort of situation. my friends two boys are absolute knock-outs to each other, but that’s just siblings i think. learning boundaries. i don’t think there’s anything wrong with your child - i think he’s being just that, a child 🤷🏼‍♀️

@quira I’m not even trying to diagnose I would like it if my child wouldn’t INTENTIONALLY hurt his siblings, laugh at it and quite never learn from whatever discipline I use. Your child should be able to distinguish being a bully, and how not to be. That’s the problem w kids now imo parents aren’t teaching empathy and how to care, my other kids aren’t quite like that so I know he needs a little extra guidance instead of enabling it🤷🏻‍♀️

Nothings wrong with behavioral therapy his behavior can be corrected. I was a problem child and I got help thanks to my mom for getting me the help I needed in high school. It was super late after asking for therapy since junior high but I got it and I’m a functioning adult. I handle business. So don’t let anyone tell you not to get your child help if you feel he needs it. You’re the mom.

@Alana agree I shouldn’t gotten help but didn’t and think it’s a good tool for kids and their parents I’m glad you feel it’s helped you!