Sex whilst pregnant.

I would say just go really really light and gentle. Don’t let him go too crazy if you’re feeling that way. I have to ask my husband to go slow sometimes since being pregnant again.

Sex can absolutely NOT cause a mcs. Even being HR

@Hayley thank you for that, can I ask what you mean by hr, id that high risk

@Cassie yeah it’s high risk. Honestly my health visitor told me I could go as rough as I’d like (because I told her me and my partner liked rough sex and we hadn’t been doing it) and she told me babies in the womb like when there parents have sex because it sends baby hormones. And the most you’d experience is a possibly a little blood after (which i never) and baby might go crazy with kicks

@Hayley I’ve been told this as well. But me and my husband did have sex about 3 days ago and the next morning I peed out so much blood it looked like I started my period, I literally started crying and freaking out I started digging in the toilet to look for my baby becuz I thought my baby fell out of me. I did go to the hospital and my baby is fine and healthy. And I have been light bleeding since. This has never happened to me before my first pregnancy we always had sex and I never bled idk what it was this time but I told my husband we have to be more gentle from here on out

So blood after would be normal? @Hayley

@Justine obviously it ultimately is up to you if you want to take things slow but categorically you will not miscarry from sex period. You would have bleed as your insides are hard at work creating a baby and your exercising it. Also when your husband is penetrating you when pregnant he will not be able to get past your cervix meaning he’s nowhere near baby

@Cassie absolutely. The general guiding is if you have heavy bleeding that fills a pad within a hour you should get checked by a doctor but like I said too Justine your husband can’t actually get close enough to baby to hurt them during sex so without being blunt-if you where to miscarry after sex it would not have been the sex it’s literally impossible. So girl have all the crazy sex you like

@Hayley Yeah I understand this. I was just sharing my recent experience becuz in the moment it was very scary the whole toilet bowl was filled with dark blood and obviously that made me think the worst😔. I would just saying if @Cassie is feeling a little worried then maybe start off slow then go rougher the more comfortable you feel I do know a little bit of blood is normal but in my experience it was A LOT

@Justine yeah again it’s upto you and your husbands how slow you want to take it but I’m talking form a factual and medical standpoint there’s no chance of a miscarriage from rough sex period. Also I’m sure you’re doctor would have explained the blood that went in the toilet would have looked a lot and dark as it had hit oxygen and wanted making it spread out making the volume look more. When in reality there was probs only a vile of bloods worth. Completely get it was scary not down playing your feeling I think my heart would have fallen out my arse if I seen blood and didn’t know the facts. But from my experience I was have really rough sex 2/3 times a day the majority of my second and third trimester and me and my partner are into really kinky stuff and when I told my health visitor she had absolutely no issues. Infact she encouraged us to keep our healthy sex life. Honestly @Cassie you genuinely have nothing to worry about

I avoid sex the first 12 weeks as like you I’ve had 3 losses and ironically I started bleeding after sex and began to miscarry. So we don’t even risk it anymore. Most people can carry on sex as normal maybe more gentle but for me i have lost trust in sex when pregnant due to my experiences x

https://www.nhs.uk/pregnancy/keeping-well/sex/

With my first pregnancy me and my husband would have regular sex it was pretty rough and I started bleeding. When I went to get checked they told me that I should be more gentle. That being rough like that could cause more bleeding…. Since then I’ve been gentle. And even with my second pregnancy even though I didn’t crave it much we were still gentle. And I’m on my third right now and again still gentle.

@Hayley that’s honestly such a weird way to put it “they like when their parents have sex” 🧍‍♂️

Okay guys update; it was good, no bleeding so far I will keep you updated

Sex is fine the whole way through except for towards the end when your cervix starts to dilate if anything I think it’s recommended as it releases happy hormones