Anyone else’s husband just act irritated with their child when they have to parent?
I’ve been sick with the flu the last couple days so I’ve spent most of the time in bed, and my husband has been parenting our 2 year old. He had a bad night with her last night (I think she’s also getting sick) and he has woken up so snappy and frustrated with everything she does. She’s just being a normal 2 year old but he’s snapping at her and being irritated the whole time.
He was snappy and irritated with her yesterday as well while I was sick in bed, he becomes a tyrant and very dictator like when he’s parenting solo.
This is quite common for him, like his go-to parenting tactic is to be irritated. It makes me so sad to see as I know if he puts in just a smidge of effort he’s a great father, I’ve seen it.
Anyone else’s partner like this? Have you done anything to help it?
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Have you talked to him about it? My partner and I split all parenting 50/50, and we both work long shifts on opposite days, so we solo parent a good deal of time. We had very indepth conversations about our expectations for each other when we are shouldering the majority of the parenting.
I think giving grace when they’re tired/overstimulated as I know I can be snappy when I too am feeling that way. If it’s a regular thing, then I would and have brought it up when the kids are in bed. He may not realise he’s being that way, he may be stressed with other things, not feeling 100% himself etc
It’s ok to feel frustrated but it’s not ok to be mean to your kid. Very bad parenting. Be a grownup, dad.
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Not that it's really a good excuse and I am HUGELY generalising here, but quite often the burden of primary carer falls on the mother and the dads just aren't used to everything that it entails and they don't know how to cope with it like we do 😅 also perhaps there is the theory that if they complain enough or do a bad job then we won't ask them to do it very often 😅 Honestly, I just think he needs to spend more time with his daughter and get a better appreciation for what you cope with!