Does anyone else’s partner do this? I’m at my wits end

Oh no. Now bunch of other kids gonna get sick too…

You may actually need to clarify that the processed food and activity means his system can't rest and then suggest concrete alternatives e.g. walk in the park, plain food so what you say is constructive and moved beyond the issue

@Grazina I know! 😩 I’m that mum who hates when people bring their sick kids to soft plays too. So frustrating

@Mas yes I let him know what to do next time, it’s just frustrating because this man is 5 years older than me so why am I having to explain these basic concepts to a grown man 😭😭😭

Men!🙄

You're being abit much. Next time have a conversation about WHERE he's taking the child first so you can reorganise if need be. He obviously didn't do it on purpose. I'd get irritated more when they just stand there waiting for you to get the kid out of the pram to put into the car seat and then load the pram too. Like pick an activity will ya lol 🤣🤣 owise just be calm and explain how you want your child to be handled. Your basic understanding as a mum isn't the next person's.

Idk I feel like it’s common sense to not give someone fast food when they have a tummy ache. And even if he didn’t kno, he should accept the criticism for doing something stupid

@Lav you say “your child” like it’s not his child too? What you’re describing she should do here is take on the entire mental load of parenting. If this man has a job and functions in society then he can use those same skills to critically think about how to look after his child. Implying mums are more capable than dads is both not true and perpetuates the stereotype that allows men to abdicate their basic parental responsibilities.

@Lav @Marie A mix of what you both say is a good response

@Marie this is the problem right here. If you are the primary care giver of the child they YOU KNOW YOUR CHILD BETTER. Stop with the semantics. Nothing to prove here. I say her child because even when she decides to enrol her child in daycare or whatever with experts let alone even if it's leaving the kid with their grandparents she will STILL have to explain what she'd like with HER child lol. Yes he's the dad but clearly not the majority caregiver so if she wants things done her way it would benefit everyone to have a discussion about her child.

@Lav noone should have to explain not to take a sick child around a room full of other children and then fill them with processed food. That has nothing to do with being the primary caregiver, it's about having basic common sense.

@Victoria~ I also thought it was common sense to not shake a baby till I realised people have to be reminded or taught this.... or it's common sense to know how to hold or carry or bath a child till I saw that they offer free classes in hospital to parents to learn how to do these seemingly obvious things that should be simple. All I am saying is that people need to learn to deal with people atleast the first couple of times with dignity and calmness like they may not know or understand a seemingly simple obvious thing to you. And your lives will be much much simpler rather than bring combative and correcting something that probably someone honestly didn't think was an issue. Which will then become an issue because it was either taken or given negatively.

People are told not to shake their baby because noone believes that THEY would ever do that and then frustration and anger reaches a peak that some people (usually men, interestingly) react with aggression in the moment. So that's not a comparison to not being able to do the very basic logical step from 'this child is sick' to 'they need to stay home and rest, and keep their germs away from others'. Also, those classes exist for people who are unsure, lacking confidence and want helpful advice on best practice. I am very confident that if I handed my baby to a childless adult and said "bathe this baby" they wouldn't polvault him into a lake, they'd be able to connect some braincells and hold/lay him in warm water and use a little soap without being directed to. The world isn't as full of bumbling helpless morons as some women on this app like to make out. Stop making excuses for men being lazy and willfully incompetent.

@Amber yes it's common sense to you not to the next person whether another mum or dad. I still remember how shocked i was when i saw a child of around 2.5 years frinking a whole can of coke uninterrupted. The mum and dad were right there with their mcdonalds enjoying their meal. Understanding this simple concept will make life so much simpler for everyone. And if it was all so obvious then it wouldn't have to be taught or offered at the hospital now would it??

And will it make people feel better if I replace dad with PARENT AT HAND or is it OH lol 🤣🤣🤣 because this happens also with women. So my answer refers to both sexes since even same sex couples have the sane issues. Learn to communicate With whoever is watching your child. I don't see what is so hard about that apart from it's the other parent. Nothing wrong in educating another parent.

@Lav I'll have to say I didn't agree with you until I kept reading. Unfortunately for some people things need to be overexplained to them and it sounds like this was one of those situations for the OP

@Melanie yes. Ik it's annoying as a mum and woman but reality is clear and calm communication is necessary in all parts of life including parenting. I always advise women to take a breath and explain. PATIENCE should be the 2nd name lol. Some partners are first borns to 6 siblings and others had little cousins and others just simply get it and that makes the partner have a smooth ride. For others who want to be involved they are learning too. Nothing wrong with that. For all yk the bub here looked bright and cheery enough to dad as they were having a day out and not sick and he thought it was just a fun thing to do. Next time he should know better and if he does the same thing then ww3 is totally fine.

This is something my partner would do 🫣 He's very clever but sometimes lacks no common sense! I have to spell things out and then get told off for being patronising.

How about this one.... Husband takes out toddler then calls to complain I didn't remind him to take the toddler's bag. Next week he tells me I should go back to work. I tell him there's no way, he cannot take care of the kids (toddler +8mo old) by himself all day. He tells me definitely can and it's hurtful and insulting that I would say that.t