in April 2023 Babies 🇬🇧

Am I overreacting?

Two years in and me and my partner have not been the same for nearly 1 year now. Feels like it’s worse now than it was in the early stages. Backstory… before baby we had all the time in the world, young, party, adventures. And now after the baby because of complications, I now have sciatic pain that is constant and just never eases. I thought he understood considering during pregnancy I had to go off on maternity early because of sciatica and I was legit crawling around unable to fully move. Now 2 years in I have managed to be able to work through the pain, care for a toddler, do my best around the house and also work 4 days a week. Today is where he really hurt me. We planned to go for a family day out but before hand I had issues with my toe it was bleeding and sore so I told him this is going to hurt me and I thought he was understanding. Arrived to the place, trying to park, id asked him to park closer to the place and that annoyed him. Then he said that he’s fed up because I’m always hurting and I can never just walk… then proceeded to say that his adventure life basically ended as soon as baby arrived and mine stayed the same. I tried to make him understand that what he said was so messed up and not ok but he just continued on to say that ofc I think that because it doesn’t shine me in the best light. Am I overreacting or was that messed up?

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How has your life stayed the same exactly?! Is he just having an off day or is this his attitude more than not. I'm really sorry if it's the latter as he doesn't seem to be understanding you at all. Do you have help that could give you a day off here and there from toddler life to try and let you have a few date days together to see if that's what he's missing?

@Shona it’s been his attitude more or less for nearly a year now. My only saving grace is that he is such an amazing dad to our baby. He said that my life is the same because I’m happy enough not to move and go on adventures, when the truth is that I would love to go do the things we used to do but my body gives up on me. I’ve given up on getting our toddler minded because everytime we do, we just argue and waste the day anyway. I’m just tired of trying my best but it’s never good enough

Kid is a big adjustment and we have hormones that kind of get us ready, men are lost. We had a shit year and half, only now it started to get better. You guys sound tired and burnt out... Both tired and just can't jump back to any kind of normal. Yeah, adventures aren't the same with a baby, but doesn't mean all has to stop. Can you plan something? Get yourself a nice new memory, family time. Talk. What helped us was me writing him a letter. Sounds silly, but I layed it all out. What I miss and how I understand things are different. And it slowly started to get better (I mean we were talking divorce before, it was bad)

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