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Have you spoken to him about it? It's not fair for him to go off and do his own thing when you can't do the same. Things are different now you have a baby and he'll have to accept that his life will change. If he's just not realising, then maybe just an open honest conversation about how you are feeling will help, and be explicit about what you need. Even though he's at work...you are also working all day and deserve a break!
I would definitely speak to him. Yes he’s working but that’s times he’s not having to look after your child. When he’s finished and on weekends it should be about him taking over or yous doing it together. You absolutely need time to yourself. I love my kids but I also love getting away from them for a couple of hours. There will always be resentment as you’re the main parent however, the more he does, the less this is going to be x
Whaaaat? Maybe it's just me but I'd be so mad if my husband went out doing hobbies and socialising every weekend eek! Mine works 6 days a week and I still struggle to accept Saturdays but fair enough he is working. Expecting to have hobbies with a newborn seems crazy to me 🥲. Your feelings are totally valid. You should chat with him asap and tell him you need me time too it's completely unfair, you're supposed to be a team
Wow this is unfair in my eyes! My partner works but does his fair share and absolutely is with us on weekends to do it together. When he works (he works from home) he also helps with baby if he isnt busy (this wasn’t always the case, but we had a conversation early on where i said he needed to help me more if he was just in the office doing nothing). He also gave up his two hobbies for the time being to help out more. I think both parents needs me time and hobbies, but equally i think its unfair one gets to and one doesn’t. Maybe suggest you alternate weekends? Yes he needs to wind down from work, but you need to wind down from baby (which is essentially a job, too). Personally if it were me, i’d tell my partner to buck his ideas up and be more hands on as a dad and let me relax, after going through pregnancy and birth. Hope you manage to talk and get on the same page, because parenting is hard and it should be 50/50 (in my opinion) x
Have you spoken to him about it? Sometimes men just have no initiative and you just have to tell them what you need from them and they’re actually happy to do it.
I’d be going mad if my partner thought that was ok every weekend! I almost resent mine now because he gets to go for a run and exercise every day and I barely get two mins alone. However I do find it’s partly my own fault I don’t get the alone time, one because I wanted to breast feed so I can’t really go out for very long because she refuses to take a bottle but also I miss her the second she’s gone and when she’s all happy and content I want to be soaking that time up with her
It’s a hard balance. My partner encourages me to go out and do my own thing but realistically the time to do this would be when he’s not working and similar to you he likes to play golf (assume it’s the same hobby) on a weekend and out for hours. He’s happy for me to do things at the weekend too obviously. He does a lot around the house and with the baby so I can’t complain but completely understand what you mean - you time is required and like I say a hard balance. Have a conversation with your partner about it. Private message if you want 😊