Do you still feel like you and your partner are roommates?

I think we are multiple of things . But if I put it in one word a team . Sometimes it does feel like roommates when we’re so busy and we don’t have time for intimacy or anyone to give us a break. but I pray for patience. But that’s my personal situation. I don’t know if your story or not to really say if this advice helps

But I would say when children are involved it does change your life around.

My son is 2 and I’m not interested in my husband sexually. He’s mean to my son and no matter how many times I ask him not to be, he is He’s sexually frustrated and asked me today why I don’t talk to him about sexual things. I’m not interested 🤷🏼‍♀️

The romance is still there, we try what we could with a baby around. But obviously is not like before, priority has changed. But we try our best.

Unfortunately yes I do too. And it seems to be fairly common looking at the results of this which I think is quite depressing. But not because they aren't kids for long and as long as you still feel something and have the patience it's worth waiting for. Would love to hear how people do keep the romance. We have date nights etc but both just exhausted and feel like mums heads are in a different place to dad's head like we never turn off thinking about everything

It is so common for this to happen, babies take up so much time and energy, and you’re both probably still adjusting to what romance looks like with a third person who is always having to be prioritized. It’s also common for the man to feel neglected or left behind when their partner is taking care of the child, even when they logically understand that it’s not what’s happening, feelings are not rational. I’ve got three and we went through roller coasters with every one, some we barely got through, we had to make an active decision to reconnect and prioritize our relationship and each other which changed everything for us.

My baby is 4 months and I’m not interested in my husband lol I guess it’s like a roommate situation. But also we don’t even have time to think about romance when we hardly get time to ourselves. It’s the last thing I care about. I’m not sure where he is at but I’m guessing he might feel the same. I think it’s normal to have the room mate phase ebb and flow through out a relationship. The current situation does not define the entire relationship it’s just a phase for us.

We did couples therapy before baby and stopped going shortly after baby was born. We picked it up after his 1st birthday and moving across country and it has helped a lot. A big thing for the both of us was identifying what we were doing that we thought was helpful, kind, intimate for the other and to see how the other interpreted it. We were doing things we wanted done but the other didn't or didn't care about. We also were not showing appreciation. I am a words of affirmation person and my partner is not so he started using Chat GPT to help him create appreciation messages for me each day. I love it, it's like getting a personal heartfelt message everyday. Hope things get better for you!

At first it was hard and we were disconnected but we went on vacation and man sparks flew and couldn't keep hands off each other. Now we do manage to sneak it in when she goes down for a nap or sometimes bedtime but we are usually too tired by then. I think what effects my situation is he works 2nd shift. So we get the best of him and then work gets the rest instead of work all day then come home and have 10% left to give. It makes alot of difference. We hike, go to the park, picnic, watch movies, etc before he goes to work at 3 everyday. We also go to the gym twice a week for an hour together while my grandmother watches our daughter. We are privileged but we also organized our life this way bc it's what works for us.