Selfish friends? RANT

I’m gonna start this off with my nan and dad have always told me I’m a people pleaser and I need to stop and be selfish myself. I’ve been doing so much for my best friends wedding. Now reached 32wks. She has siblings and sisters and I’d no one for mine. Besides the point. From being asked to do balloon arches, set ups, take pics/videos same time, make desserts, design posters etc, travel day before etc to do set ups etc for these functions/mini parties. Pick someone up/drop off. Pick up an order on the way. Over my pregnancy I’ve just noticed them being so blissfully not mindful at all and not taking me and my pregnancy into consideration at all! Eg id keep mentioning here and there when they’d ask how I am that I’m struggling a bit with getting up sitting down or things like that and I’d either get a dead, “aww bless ya” or “well that’d just part of the process” or “you’re gonna miss the bump when it’s gone. Enjoy it” like I’m sorry you asked and I’m telling you. I don’t be complaining at all. I only started mentioning like not negatives but the hard parts of it when I realised they’re demanding more and more from me. I got told for one event that I’ll just be a guest etc but next thing you know I was being pulled and asked to do everything and they were being so dumb and I was repeating things 5x to explain and it was just a lot. Last weekend I attended the function and thought I’ll just be recording at the end but I was literally on photo/video duty throughout. Like couldn’t the siblings have recorded her walking in? They were sat down. I know I’m good at what I do but come on? It’s not rocket science. Then the songs/playlists, video at the same time. Being told to put so and so song on and then take it off. Felt like I was getting shouted at half the time for not putting right ones on but I’ve never heard of these songs before. Plus they weren’t in the playlists and I had to YouTube them. Oh and if an advert came on I’d mute because it’s on the speaker. I’d hear every time an abrupt, “Why’s it’s stopped!!!????” No one told me not to pause in between dances and the music was on one long recording. Again, “don’t stop it!!! Keep it going!” Then they weren’t ready, “rewind it!!” Again struggling to know how far back to rewind it. Was sat the whole time and I was in pain and didn’t feel like I could handover to someone else as I know in their eyes the whole world is pregnant and gets on with it like I’m being dramatic. So I just quietly get on without complaining. Next day when they messaged for the footage. I did mention in the most polite way that I did find it a bit stressful and like didn’t get to fully enjoy it like the others did (didn’t feel like a guest more of a photographer/videographer) my best friends reply was basically how I should’ve said and they’d have given it to someone else and that they didn’t think me sitting down with phone on stand would’ve been too much etc so I just went into a bit of detail to back myself up about how it wasn’t that just like the music responsibility, recording, sitting down for long and not knowing whether she wanted anyone else to record, etc. I got a phone call basically saying how I’ve upset her sisters and they’re shocked at what I’ve said and that she’ll need to ‘calm them down’ and speak to them they’re sort of hurt by what I’ve said and I should’ve just said and they’d have appreciated it if I said it there and then rather than messaging. I did say I felt like it was safe space but clearly not. I’m a people pleaser so started feeling bad and was being very civil and trying to say look I’m pregnant and the day just got too much for me plus other things that happened that night and it was directed at the siblings directly it was a build up of little little things from everything that day. We didn’t know you were tired or struggling blah blah (hun I’ve told you million times but you never acknowledged it. I even said once I was crying and so overwhelmed with work and this and that and she didn’t respond till houuuurs later and then next day asked if I’d made a video for her (like highlights) because I’m so good at editing 🥲🥲 she fully went in and was basically saying it’s all my fault and I should’ve said something (but was there any point because everytime I’ve said I’m struggling no one’s given a sheht!) they’d just repeat ‘oh you tired?’ And carry on with what they were doing. I felt like saying oh but no one gave a toss on your x function when I said this and this and start listing everything out but thought it’s not the time with her wedding around the corner plus like I just can’t cause a scene like that. I did even cry on the phone about how something else happened that night when I got home that triggered me too so the overall day I was just tired etc and she kept bringing it back to the topic of her sisters. Mind you they have not replied to that message at all. No apology not even a I’m sorry that you felt that way we didn’t realise we wish you would’ve told us but we’ll bear in mind etc. nothing. I bawled my eyes out all that day and night and felt so hurt and idk the word but for them to shove it all on me?! I know for a fact roles reversed if I had asked them to do one small thing whilst pregnant they’d be like are you mad I’m pregnant! I can’t. Simple. Now I’m just worried how they’ll treat me on the wedding and how it’ll go after that. Like I sense everything and even tho people say forget them etc or don’t let it bother you. It simply does and it’s been a week and I just can’t get over it 😣😣😞