Mom rant

This morning my boyfriends ex called me and asking if she can drop the kids off and we take them to school due to a mix up in her and her moms schedule. This is something we do often so I was like of course. Once my step kids were dropped off (6 and almost 8) I noticed she packed a long for the 6 year old which she typically doesn’t do cause she has him get hot lunch. I was curious in what she packed and all was in there was a chocolate pudding, a gogurt stick and a Chobani yogurt protein drink. I asked if he was planning on getting hot lunch too and he said no that’s my lunch. Our 7 year old then told us that “mom lets us pack our own lunch!” Which made me check hers which was a little better with a gogurt, chobani yogurt protein drink (2nd of the day since she was drinking one for breakfast), beef stick and a uncrustable. My boyfriend and I were very upset as those are not well packed lunches and you should never trust a kindergarten to pack their own lunch. We told him he needs to get a hot lunch and eat what he packed for his after school snack since they are there till 4:15 at the after school program. BM is always wondering why the kids have horrible behavior when they are with her but she is constantly feeding them unhealthy, processed foods high in sugar. It is just hard because our 7 year old use to be a picky eater but with us she eats so much now but she tells us her mom only serves her chicken nuggets for dinner 🙃 which was confirmed because BM told me “that’s all she will eat.” It is starting to affect our 6 year olds eating habit and he is starting to be very picky and only wanting sugary foods. There is a lot of other stuff going on as well but how do you handle it and not let it upset you too much as there is nothing you can do?

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It sounds like you guys are in the same town. Do you guys split the kids 50-50? If not, I was just going to court in upping your parenting time. That would be the first step to getting the kids in a good routine while they are with you.

@Dominique we moved to the same town 2 years ago to have more custody. Since then we have had 40/60. We get them Thursdays and they got back to BM on Wednesdays and then we get them the following Thursday so basically one week with us one week with BM. It takes the kids a couple days to get back in the routine with us but are great the rest of the week. We have little behavior issues with them and they eat pretty we’ll considering how they eat at their BM. We constantly making fresh meals and send fresh lunch for both kids. We also have our own 3 kids that are 3yo, 4yo and 7mo and they are on a great routine. I just wish they were in a better schedule and routine and ate healthier at BM. When we do things all together they are completely different kids around her than when they are with us.

Hey I get it. I have 2 sk and 2 co parenting kids, they only go to their other parents every other weekend and come back as nightmares. sugared up, claiming that they’ve stayed up until 2 o’clock in the morning, really bad runs because they go two weeks of eating healthy food and then go straight to junk food. We’ve talked to the coparent multiple times and they claim that they serve the kids healthy food and that they put them to bed at a normal bedtime, which is clearly a lie. It’s hard but the most you can do is encourage your kids to eat lunch at school and to pick healthy behaviors. We always tell our kids “Just because our other parent chooses to parent that way doesn’t mean ours right out beneficial for you, YOU have to make the healthy choices because they won’t for you.” It’s a struggle and I wish I could say it got easier, but it really doesn’t. We’ve been coparenting for just about seven years.

“Just because your other parent chooses to parent that way doesn’t mean it’s right or beneficial for you, YOU have to make the healthy choices because they won’t for you.” Sorry noticed my swipe text messed up that statement.

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