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Have you spoken to your family about it before? My husband and I are about 90 minutes from our parents. My parents visit constantly because they understand how much harder it is for us to come with our daughter than it is for them to come to us. His parents don't come around and, because of it, we don't go to them very much. His philosophy is his parents can choose the relationship they want and, if they decide not to come, that's on them. We've spoke to them and we make it clear we can make a plan whatever. We're still not in their priorities and that's ok but we're not prioritizing them in our daughter's life either because we don't want to waste precious weekend time in the car when we could be having quality family time instead. So I'd open the conversation but if they don't want to put in the effort, if consider if it's worth your effort.
@C not had a conversation yet, my mum doesn't take to the conversation well I'm trying to avoid it. We do stay with family. And we have a trundle bed in our daughter room. My daughters also asked for a princess but and I'm telling her no cause the bed is also for when family comes but I'm also thinking is there any point if it's only used once a year
Have you ever had a conversation about it? I feel like sometimes when we're the ones to constantly make the drive out to people, it doesnt occur to them that they haven't come to us. In their minds they are clearing their schedule for our visit or making themselves available to some degree. Or if youre going, are you staying with family? Does that mean they have the space to have you over for a long weekend? Do yo7 have that same set up to host them all weekend? Just let them know that your little has asked a few times and that it has actually made you wonder why they have not asked to come to you guys and that you'd actually love for them to come to you guys and kind of trade off on visits.