How do you calm down? My son has been so fussy and needy recently.
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For me personally my nephew passed away from the hands of a family caregiver at 5 months and every time I get frustrated I remember how lucky I am to have kids that are screaming and need to be held.. I get frustrated just as does any mother but I quickly remember they don’t have another voice and they can’t control their emotions so I need to be there for him to control mine to help him learn to feel comforted — I also think what it was like the last moments for my nephew and how he was alone and had nobody there to comfort him, not sure if this would help you because it isn’t directly family but if I can offer one thing just remind yourself how lucky we are to feel frustrated and remember they are also feeling frustration and don’t know how to verbally tell you or why they do 🤍 it gets better momma!
I feel for you. I’m going through the same thing. I try to take deep breaths. I try to model the behavior I want my son to learn by voicing how I’m feeling. I’ll say something like, “I’m feeling overwhelmed & would like to be left alone for a minute.” When I do snap I tell him, “It’s not your fault, mommy is feeling overwhelmed & shouldn’t have snapped at you.
I started herbal supplements for anxiety, promoting calm. So on and off I'll use lemon balm or passionflower tinctures, lately I drink tulsi(holy basil) Chai tea. Ultimately tho, being calm is a choice I am learning. I have to choose to be calm. Been reading a Chinese medicine book and alot of it talks about calmness. I track my emotions, if I'm too frustrated I take me and my 26month old on a walk or car trip. I also forgot to mention I take magnesium glycinate for bed and extra vitamin d drops in the morning. Too everything about a month fir me to notice I was not snapping as much
My son gets mad at me sometimes like that too when I like to pull aside and I like to ask him what’s wrong talk to me you know just asking him what’s going on and he could just open up to the other thing is just giving him the love and affection that you need to give him maybe he’s justgetting affection from you. You know I don’t know your situation preferably but that’s how my situation is the way my son gets. I just calm down and I haven’t talked to me and I haven’t tell me what’s going on so we can figure it out so it doesn’t happen again.