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Opinions please. My son plays with another boy in the street. He has ADHD. Usually they play great together and get on great but today he came into our front garden and started being really rough with my son. He kept slamming himself into my son. I brought him in as he was 😢 and very upset. My son said you should apologise and he said no I'm not apologising. Literally don't know where to go with this. Do I message his mum and explain what happened. Do I not let my son play with him again. I'm a very understanding person but will not tolerate someone hurting my child. Thanks

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I would definitely message his mum and explain to her what happened. It is good for her to know about incidents that her son is involved in. Also, because her son has ADHD, he will have been unable in that moment to think about what he had done and process things and reflect enough to give a meaningful apology. If his mum is informed, she will be able to talk him through what happened, what made him do what he did and how he could better handle things next time and discuss what he can do to help fix the upset he has caused to your son. If this is the first time it’s happened and you’ve had a talk with your son and he’s happy to continue the friendship then I wouldn’t stop them playing together just yet. But it’s definitely an option to consider should there be another incident. Having ADHA isn’t an excuse for hurting others and hopefully this little boys mum will work with him to teach him other ways of handling big emotions. Good Luck!

Message his mom but also explain to him that your son can’t play with him if he won’t play nice. Don’t make him apologize especially if it’s not genuine but make it so he understands the consequences of his actions

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