Boyfriend doesn’t seem To want sex .

Me and my boyfriend have been back together for about 2 months after a 3 month split . He was very low when we split and was over the moon when I agreed to give it another go . For the past month or so he doesn’t seem up for it or even try to initiate which seems bizarre as before the split he was always up for it and would even wake me up in the night or early morning . I have tried to bring it up but he just fobs it off and says he’s tired from work but his work hasn’t changed infact if anything he’s doing less now as he’s working for himself and choosing his own jobs and hours . When we have finished sorting the kids eaten etc we get into bed to watch a film or whatever then he just falls asleep . Has anyone else had this ? What was the reason ? I’ve said if he doesn’t want to be with me anymore then to tell me but considering how much he wanted us to get back together and says how much he loves me I don’t think it’s this but then I’m confused as to what the problem could be ? Also we are together every night so he wouldn’t have the chance to cheat unless he’s doing it at work which wouldn’t really happen as he’s got workmates with him constantly as they get a lift together .

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How far long pregnant are you? Or how far long postpartum are you? No judgement. But my boyfriend was like that too when I was starting to show. And now I’m kind of the same way since I’m really uncomfortable in my new postpartum body. Not taking his side at all just wanted some more context 😊

@Maddie I’m not pregnant we have a 3 year old and a 4 year old between us x

Were you the one who broke up with him? If so, could it be that he's feeling a bit insecure? He might not even realise he is. Being broken up with (not blaming or judging at all, I'm sure there were valid reasons whatever happened!) does suck and by nature makes you feel very unwanted and shitty about yourself. Now you guys are back together he might just be feeling a bit confused and/or overwhelmed. I'd maybe have another (non-confrontational) chat with him and put all your cards on the table. Explain exactly how you're feeling and ask him to help you figure it out. You've both decided to give it another go so you both need to work at it, if he's not prepared to do that then 🤷🏻‍♀️ maybe he doesn't want the relationship as much as he thought he did - but it's not fair to waste your time and energy if that's the case!

@Lauren we had a massive argument and both ended it with each other but the next day he regretted it and wanted to get back together but I was still so angry he tried to contact me the whole 3 months of us being broken up to rekindle and eventually I agreed to hear him out and try again . He’s always had a high sex drive and me less but now it seems the roles have reversed and don’t quite understand why . Your advice is really helpful and I will defo have another chat about it if it continues because it’s out of character .

He could be depressed or dealing with a lot of stress at work, it could be low testosterone as well.

Might be depressed

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