Loosing yourself
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I felt the exact same after having my first. I took up running, made sure to make time for things I enjoy (I know this isn’t always possible, as I had my husband to have my daughter at times - such as in the evenings so I could have a bath/read/run etc!). I honestly found that I felt much more myself when I went back to work. It got us in more of a routine, which I really need to feel well mentally. This time round I’m on mat leave again with my 7 week old and my two year old. On the mornings where my 2yo isn’t at nursery, we book playgroups in advance and go to those each week to make sure we get out the house every day (which is something I didn’t do with her on my first mat leave). Do you have any support from your family? It can be so so hard to feel like a separate person - I just felt like an extension of my daughter for such a long time. Do any of your friends have kids? Or are there any local groups to you? I didn’t like groups with my first as I didn’t feel confident enough
To go alone with her but now I take both my kids on my own, and my 2yo has such a great time that I regret not taking her when she was tiny! I understand they aren’t for everybody though. 🫶🏻
Yes!!! You are definitely not alone! My kid is 2 and I still feel like I’m looking for myself! I had to accept that I’ll never be who I once was but I have to become a newer and better version of myself
Mhm yes making more connections has helped I’m trying to join mommy groups and making friends to uplift me and motivate me to make things happen I’m almost three months postpartum do you have any tips for me any advice
i feel the exact same way. i also have extremely minimal help which isn't helpful for my mental health. i'm essentially doing it alone, and im not really dealing with it. i'm struggling pretty bad. my friends have suggested therapy & some postpartum vitamins, trying to find the motivation to go for a walk!