Saying no

If people don’t want to respect boundaries- they shouldn’t get to be in your/your kids life. I’m not okay with all of that as well when they’re so little and it’s just what it is. Respectfully say no and then it’s up to them to respect or be mad. They have to be on your time, not the other way around. Don’t feel bad holding strong to your mama gut!💖

I feel the same mama, with my 3 month baby girl. I’m not as concerned about ending up lonely (though saying “no” could push people away) but more about people perceiving me as “rude” or “uptight”. I showed up at my in laws as they hosted a bday dinner for hubby and as we walk through the door my MIL says she is getting sick (while sniffling with a tissue in hand) and so is my nephew…we stayed for the dinner party and she didn’t hold my baby but the entire time I was like “get me out of here”! FIL held the baby and I struggled to say no…clearly he’s in contact with my MIL so there is risk there. FIL also keeps kissing baby on the cheek when we have said “no”. My husband is super serious (it’s his fam) and he’s taken the lead to be firm while I try my best to say “no” without the emotional toll after. Keep protecting your baby and stay strong because at the end of the day, we as parents need to do what we feel is best (even if others don’t like it).

Yes I feel the same way. I didn’t realize how many boundaries you have to set when becoming a parent . It’s definitely a work in progress trying to get out of my comfort zone. I even havent brought my daughter around certain ppl yet cus I know they will make a big deal me saying I don’t want ppl kissing her. At 3 months it’s even more understandable but you can say it’s precaution because you don’t want your baby to get sick.

I have no problem with no I kept my boundaries and it took me a long time to leave my son with his father alone let alone others. My sister is my person I trust 100000% and I have a close friend who calls and says “let me take him for an hour. You can have time to do whatever you want to do” and I’m so so grateful for that. She also is one who says “let’s go for a walk. Grab a drink. Grab dinner. Check out a movie etc” You’re allowed to have your boundaries. My son is nearly 2.5 years old and I only just now let my mother kiss the back of his head. My sister does too. He’s her first Aunt Era. Strangers still approach my boy and try and touch and kiss him. Let me be arrested cuz it’s a hard no

My baby is 2mo. We have my nieces baptism coming up and I am debating if I want to go bc of the reason of saying no to people. He yet hasn’t had his shots and wouldn’t want to get him sick. My husband is 100% with no holding and has no problem telling people no. I have a harder time but do plan to nicely tell my family no and if they get bothered then so be it. I’d rather they get bothered than my baby get sick and me be at the hospital at 1 am because I was negligent.

I feel the exact same way. With the current measles surge, I'm so nervous for my 6 month old. I live in another state than my family, but everyone keeps asking to visit and I even had to have a conversation with my aunt this morning about boundaries. Stating that we'd love to see her and she's welcome to visit, but she'd have to stay in her own place, and only meet baby outdoors, also be up to date on all vaccines. So it wouldn't be the most fun or comfortable visit, but unfortunately this is the world we live in right now. She understood and was bummed, but feels its best that we wait till she's a year and has all her shots.