Drained

Hi mamas,I’m struggling and need to pour my heart out. We moved across the country to a super rural area for my husband’s job, and I’m a stay-at-home mom to my toddler with no one nearby. I’m so lonely. There are barely any amenities here – no parks, no library, no mommy-and-me classes, and definitely no mom groups to join. I feel completely invisible.I adore my kiddo, but I’m so exhausted, not just physically but emotionally. I feel like I’ve lost myself. I used to have hobbies, a career, a life beyond “Mom,” but now it’s just diapers and endless chores. My husband’s wonderful but gone all day, and by evening, I’m too drained to talk. I feel guilty for complaining, but it’s so hard being this isolated.Has anyone else felt this way, especially in a rural area? How do you make friends or find yourself again when there’s nothing around? Any advice or virtual hugs would mean the world.Thanks for listening.

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Hi! I think if you have a car may make the difference unless you like online classes or youtube videos to recreate with your toddler. Maybe participate more in the school Activities?

I felt this way when I became a SAHM.. even when I lived with everything at my finger tips. I highly encourage you setting aside time for a hobby.. anything that you can pour an hour into daily, maybe when baby naps; you don't get to guilt yourself out of it. Consider it therapy ❤️

Hey mama! We moved from a big city to a very rural area. We do have a library and a few playgrounds but that’s about it. We’ve been here a year and a half and I feel so similarly to you. I’m home with my kids all day everyday. I love them so much but it’s exhausting. My partner travels once a month for work and is typically gone an entire week at a time. I don’t know anyone. I don’t have great advice, unfortunately. But I’m sending you positive energy and big hugs. Also, if you ever just want to message/text another adult feel free to reach out to me. ☺️

Do you have a car? How far is the closest larger city?

I live in a rural area, too. Nothing nearby. Neighbors are cool but spread out and not available. I was also lonely and driving me crazy. My kid is 2 now. And she likes playing outside without getting into things like before. Got rid of almost all the ants. Got her a Sand box and a play area. Water and sand is her hobby. Keeps her busy. But my only connections are peanut and 3 days a week working with other adults...I wouldn't mind not working. My family lives about 50 min away both ways. Once a week I go visit or they visit. I don't have friends with young children. And single friends live an hr away. I visit youtube. I totally get you 🤗🤪💛🧡🩷

@Brittany yes, nearest "city" although I wouldn't really consider it a city, its like 40,000 people is 50 minutes away. So I can drive there once a week but I can't justify that trip everyday.

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