Feeling unattractive/ugly

Tell him not to do it in front of you you’re not blind you can see someone he’d find attractive. Just don’t bring you down by looking right beside you.. imo could get worse if he’s gunna keep gaslighting you

He needs to value you as his person that he shares life with whether you're a cave troll or not there will always be prettier girls than you than I than every other girl out there girls are pretty is what it is however he needs to not be disrespectful to you by having eyes for others but honestly if another girl being pretty is enough for him to leave you then he's not a catch younger prettier girls will continue to exist forever but a mature guy won't need their attention to polish his own insecurities at the expense of your feelings....

If he’s making you feel this way pregnant or not, he is a complete bum wipe. He either gets his act together, or 🗑️

I come from a totally different approach, I DEF feel not as cute as before, and my husband says those things as well.. but we’ve always been so beyond honest, like if he sees a fit woman- I usually say omg she’s so fit, and he will be like- you’ll get back to that babe, but ya she’s super fit.. or we were talking about my sons football coaches (a bunch of college kids who play) and how jacked they were. My gf even said what a bunch of hunks.. and we commented and talks freely about it with him. There are many attractive people in the world, it’s impossible not to notice them. But noticing them and gawking are two different things. I believe it’s ok for my husband to see an attractive woman, and know it’s ok for him to say “ she’s attractive”.. or vice versa. It’s not like every attractive man in like ohhh I wonder what he’d be like.. def not. Maybe try and look at it from the opposite side.. it’s OK that people are attractive.

@Allie yea I agree I can b a bit jelly if he tries to sneak a look but yea being open n just acknowledging someone's beauty together as general convo brings a whole diff energy. N again agreed just because we find people attractive doesn't mean the thought even goes beyond that. I think the hormones may have you projecting onto him what could really be a you thing. I would just do some things to make myself feel better. A new look or even some fun bedroom antics to get a fresh response and extra attention from him.

I think every pregnant and postpartum lady has had these thoughts before, I know I have. Whenever I have these thoughts I remind myself that my husband is not the most attractive man in the world and we've both gained weight since the beginning of our relationship but I still love him and I would/do pick him over a more 'attractive' man and I remind myself he would do/does the same.

It doesnt get better and he wont change. If he does change itll be for the worse and hell start doing it behind your back. Speaking from very personal experience. Accept that he wont change and you alone are not enough for him, leave, return the favor even. Sorry for this short, blunt, and bitter response but it's true. Hormones might make it worse and might make you feel crazy but youre not.

@Tiggy’s Mummy this is the reply she needs to hear! Everything else is bs to me.

I think you had a very strong g reaction Probably unpopular opinion, but it seems you have an issue with your image and whatever he says you won't believe him. You need to find a way to love yourself again independently of him and what he thinks. Is it your first pregnancy? It can be a shock to see your body changing, gaining weight, not recognising yourself but you need to learn to love yourself, embrace those changes as they mean your are doing a great job growing your baby. You can't control your partner but you can work on how you see yourself. You also can't be 100% sure he was looking at someone else and even if he did, he still tried to reassure you but you can't hear it as you are insecure. And yes hormonal changing is also at play. I hope you will be able to hear him and be kinder on yourself. Good luck

@Marie🩵🩷💚 I agree pregnancy can bring out your insecurities I remember feeling very insecure in the months where I just looked bloated as I’m already a bigger girl but when I look back at the pics I was completely out of my mind lol

@Marie🩵🩷💚 my reaction was because we had this conversation last week, i thought we had spoken it through and was on the same page. He knows im very hormonal, he definitely looked as he looked back at her again. This is my 2nd but i dont feel unattractive i just dont feel attractive to him anymore thats the issue. I just feel like im going thru all of this, im being as open and honest as i can about it all and its as simple as someone with a nice bum to throw it all off. I am the person he chose to have a child with, im the person sacrificing my health and body for this family and he cant listen to me or make me feel secure as his partner. I dont find anyone else attractive, he was the one to catch my eye and the thought doesnt even cross my mind but im obviously not enough for him