My whole life I was told being gay is a sin. But I don’t understand why it’s such a bad thing in the eyes of God. How can it be wrong when it’s not a choice? You can’t help who you are attracted to, and it’s not hurting anyone. I just don’t see the problem even though I’ve been conditioned to believe it is a sin. (And I still do think it is since the Bible says it’s wrong. I just don’t understand WHY and wish it wasn’t because it’s not a choice and I would hate for one of my children to grow up being told it’s a sin and then they happen to have homosexual feelings and not be honest with me.) It’s one of those things that we are told are a sin but I don’t think is inherently wrong.
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It is a choice. God doesn’t make you gay. In the Bible it talks about not lying with another man or women of like the same sex. God created man and women not two men not two women. Our purpose on earth is to multiple and we can’t do that being gay. We are taught to one love another for sure. Being friends to everyone not hating. But not loving in an intimate way.

It’s because God has created one man for each woman. I can go into more depth but the Bible also talks about it beautifully. I can give you scriptures if you like

Even if you take at face value that it’s not a choice. The acting on it is definitely a choice.
For an extreme example of our desires being sinful - a pedophile “can’t help” being attracted to children. It’s still wrong. And the choice to act on it is doubly wrong.
For a straight example - a person can’t help being attracted to someone that isn’t their spouse but it’s still sinful - and even adultery of the heart as Jesus says.

i was shocked at the poll results then i realized this is a Christian group…

It’s a sin because of sexual immorality.
Similarly to how sex outside of marriage is a sin sex, and these type of romantic relationships. Outside of God’s design are..
When we look at sex and romance, a lot of the times the ways in which we act sinful in those areas come from either a person genuinely not knowing or believing it’s wrong because they weren’t raised to understand that or they know these things are wrong, and they choose to remain acting on them Normally because of something inside them that isn’t dealt with.
We called to not act on our desires, which means if I’m not marriage to you I shouldn’t have sex with you.

Its opposition, not only of what God says is truth, but of the very way HE created man and woman. At this point, the last age, there's nothing that hasn't been corrupted by Satan. First was the seed war...corruption of the seed of mankind by by Satan to stop Jesus from being born. Long ago the fallen angels mated with humans, created nephilim, as well as hybrids created from mating with animals. So God says these things are sin and forbidden. He literally had to end the world once, by flood, and only save Noah's family & 2 of each kind of animal...because everyone else went against God's truth & HIS design of creation...it produced evil and chaos a d perversion. Whenever He called for people groups to be battled & completely wiped out...it was because of their evil nephilim genetics. If you had a tick on you, would you let it stay there? Nope, you get what is detestable off your body. Evil leads to death. People in this age are so decieved they think good is evil and evil is good.
it’s a choice to act on it but I believe feelings aren’t a choice. And what about people who can’t have children? Or who don’t want children? I don’t believe our only purpose is to multiply

There's also scientific implications of putting certain substances in your body that's made from baby stem cells...boys weren't meant to be !nject ed with girl cells & girls weren't meant to be filled with boy's...so thats partly to blame for some of the confusion people suffer because of tampering with God's biological design as well.
I know acting on it is a choice. But if you are only attracted to the same sex the only alternative is to never have romantic love or intimacy in your life and that’s so sad. I just feel like homosexuality can’t be grouped with other sins because it’s who you are and takes away something (a loving relationship) that everyone hopes to have in their life. It’s not like deciding not to get drunk anymore. It’s who you are internally

Yes a choice to act on it for sure and we have free will. But it’s a sin so you could chose to act on it or not. That’s up to you. And yes. Some people can’t or don’t want to have kids. But I think the like original like purpose was to do that. But I for sure could be wrong. I don’t remember where it says that or anything like that

It’s not the only choice. :) Jesus will transform and renew your heart. He has transformed my heart in different ways when I was continually walking in sun. Have you read the book Gay girl, good God? It’s really good.

I'd look for people's testimonials who share how they lived with a strong hold and identity as homosexual and other, and how Jesus delivered them. Listen to real life testimonies of people who lived through it all.

And yes to answer that other thing you said. I have heard of stories of people being attracted to same sex and they couldn’t help it so they just stopped dating and having sex all together. Same with sex outside of marriage. If you aren’t married and you’re a Christian then you shouldn’t be having sex. So if you were and became Christian then the best thing to do would be to stop having sex until you get married. You’d stop being in a relationship with the same sex.

Whew this is a tough one, but some things to think about...our thoughts are not His thoughts. All have sin. Men have ranked sin and condemn homosexuality more than fornication in a heterosexual sense. It's not about hating those who are homosexual, but agreeing with what God says. Which can be so hard...

It is a sin just like pride,envy,gluttony,murder, idolatry,etc. Its the sexual desires more then anything acting upon them which is a sin. We were designed to reproduce. There was no such thing as i wanna be a Rockstar when I grow up. Because weren't created for a 9-5 or any of the worldly stuff people created. We were designed to love on another and be fruitful and multiple. Thats it. Are purpose is family,community, and culture. All those things. We weren't meant to be in realtionships that don't produce life and family. And to the people who cant have kids thats environmental. The transition from being a women to a mother is crazy and the responsibility of shaping,loving, and sacrificing for another is the most beautiful thing we could do as human beings. But often times people pick and choose sins to rag on when all sins are equal in the eyes of God. You must change to be of God or you are just lukewarm.

I myself was freed from bisexuality. I thank God for that daily.

I agree, You said like a pedophile is attracted to children but shouldn’t act on it. They consider those ppl to have mental issues the same as gay ppl.

If your children decide to have those feelings. Deal with that card when it’s handed to you, don’t let that be a worry.

I disagree that “it’s who they are.” People are so much more than their desires or sexual urges. Loving relationships don’t have to be sexual. Still, Jesus said that some are born eunuchs, some are made that way, and some make the choice. We all have choices.
I don’t think we as humans should do whatever is right in our own eyes - that was the problem Israel had in the time of the judges. Sin is sin and we should not try to make excuses for our own sin but recognize it for what it is and respond to it in the way God does.

It’s a sin. We don’t have to reason it out or figure out why.
We don’t get to create what’s a sin and not. God does. All we have to do is obey. The foundation of God is sure.
God created man and woman to have romantic relationships and marriages. The devil perverted it with homosexuality and other sexual sins.
Any Christian struggling with homosexuality have to be fully surrendered to God. Let the holyspirit take control through and through.

I like this advice. Breaking strongholds is important 🙏🏽

The feelings are what the world says is our heart speaking. The Bible says in Jeremiah 17:9 that the heart is deceitful above all things and is desperately wicked, who can understand it? To follow Christ requires us to deny our fleshly desires on a daily basis and not give into the temptation that Satan sets before us. Satan hates God, therefore he hates us because we God made us in his own image. Satan knows his inevitable fate in the end and that he will spend eternity in Hell and he wants to deceive, confuse, and corrupt as many people as possible so that they choose that fate as well. In the garden of Eden he deceived Eve into thinking eating fruit from the tree God specifically told them not to eat from would be okay and that they surely would not die but that was were sin and separation from God was introduced. In these times don’t allow temporary satisfaction to separate you from God.

The feelings? 2 Corinthian 10:5 calls us to destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ.
In Matthew 4: 1-11 Jesus was also tempted by Satan when he fasted for 40 days and nights in the wilderness, he was very hungry, Satan told him that since he was the Son of God to turn the stones into bread. Jesus told him that man shall not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God.
Hunger was a feeling he could not help, however in his fasting he was drawing near to the Heavenly Father who gave him strength.
This was to show us that we as human can deny our flesh. Is it easy? No but he never promised us this would be an easy walk however he promised that he would always be with us. He gave us his Word as guidance and instruction on not just getting by in life but being conquerors. Pray. Prayer is our weapon against the enemy. I pray over your mind, body and soul they belong to God!

Ok ok, I get that this is a Christian group and people are going to have opinions, and I'm not here to engage (it just came up on my scroll).
But since I'm here, OP - I just want to say that you are on the right track in questioning this. Please be kind to your child, regardless of how they turn out, and appreciate them for whoever they turn out to be. Hope for them to live with love in their hearts, however that love manifests for them, to form families if they want to, and to be happy. They will need your support.
I know too many gay adults who took decades to dismantle all of the internalized self-hate they were taught as children, and not enough gay adults because too many gay kids kill themselves over that self-hate. Conversion therapies don't work. They just lead to isolation, repression, and suicide. Keep your children alive. Love and protect them. It will be a difficult road, especially if you are surrounded by homophobic people, but your children will be alive, and that is all that matters.

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Being gay goes against the intent of Gods design. If it was not sinful then it would have existed before the fall of humanity. God created everything with a good purpose and sin caused corruption. Food was created for our nourishment and through sin came gluttony but if you look at an excessively large plate of food it doesn’t physically look like sin. Man and woman were created to join together and become one flesh and sin came in and brought the temptation to turn away from what God has for us. The enemy is putting in work to glorify sin and convince people that it should be accepted and understood. Some things may appear harmless but if something goes against Gods design then that’s a good indicator that it is wrong and was never meant to be. 🤍 We are very much called to love everyone but we are not called to be accepting of sin.