Dating a guy with a 3mo bby

I wouldn’t go anywhere near him.

He’s still married, his partner is freshly postpartum, he’s got another kid and he’s still living with the wife and kids.

I wouldn’t believe a word he says nor would I want to get involved with a man who can leave a new mum, still live with them yet be out dating and fucking around.

I mean absolutely no disrespect at all but I have sooooooo many questions.

hell no bestie. I'm the mom, not the one looking to date a new dad, sorry that wasn't clear.
Thank you for your input.

thank you for sharing your story. I don't know what to think atm. Kids make everything different.

Run!!!🏃‍♀️

I’m guessing that OP is trying to suss out, as the wife in this situation, if her husband’s ambition to date so soon after baby/marriage breakdown will be successful. Also if so, what type of women would want to take this on and become involved with her family.

I’m sorry this has happened to you, you’re a brave woman for allowing this under your roof. I hope you are getting support so fresh postpartum ❤️

exactly

Some people have the ability to make believe the reality......he has a newborn🚩
He lives with an EXceptional woman who birthed his children (plural) 🚩 He is not in a relationship but is only allowed to 'play out' after hours🚩 you believe he won't do the same to you🚩

Honestly it's the man at fault the woman's only loyalty seems to be to a penis. It's your 'EX?!' you should hold accountable but if you are not together he really can run around collecting all the fleas he wants......respectfully

I have a question, no disrespect, its just a lot to unpack and I am just curious. Are you allowed a one night a week pass? What if he wants a second girl for one other night of the week? What if they get more serious? Is it kind of polyamoury for him? What if you get an std, because he cant be her only right, would he have to stop seeing eachother? Isnt one night off you getting 6/7ths (85%) of him, not all of him?What if your kids (daughter) or family find out what will you tell them? Do they already know?

YESS didn't think this would be confusing sorry. I'm the mom not the other one in this scenario

Lol I'll make another post

I would not be putting my health at risk based off a stranger that’s “loyal to him.” I do hope you get tested frequently. I also don’t know how I’d be able to be intimate with my man if he’s intimate with someone else. I feel like that’s already not getting all of him because he’s not fully committed. I also think he started the process off with a lie (cheating) so even if you do “allow” it now it wouldn’t stop him either way since it didn’t stop him before. However I do admire how strong you are to be able to handle this with stride, and if you’re happy then that’s all that matters!

also… what if she gets pregnant? Then she’s definitely going to need more than a couple hours one night a week with him. How would you handle that?

girl idk how you do it, I’d be in jail smiling. To each their own 🩷

I wish I didn’t read this entire thread first thing in the morning

If she’s ok with it? If they plan to separate? It’s grey area but make it known what your wants and boundaries are and as long as you’re happy and they are going to have him with a diffrent person always it’s confusing but not unheard of 🤷🏼‍♀️

Thanks for the reply! I used to be the third in a couple, a unicorn as it was called. However I was dating the wife and the husband was an extra. I was with them a couple (maybe 3) years until I met my husband. I liked having his attention 100%, I never agreed to be loyal to them though.

I say this with love - what kind of damn question is this?! Now you know damn well you shouldn’t be anywhere near this man and his wife and kids! Lmao

wife, no wife. baby or no baby. in the house or separate. they do not care so yes there are many desperate women out there