In a married couple can a man be a good father but a bad husband/partner?

I don’t think so. Because doing his fair share of parenting is part of being a good partner

Being a good husband is part of setting an example to little ones. It teaches the boys how to be towards their future wife and girls what to expect from their future husband. No one is perfect but ideally these two things go hand in hand.

I think so but certainly not a perfect one. A good father engages his kids and helps make sure their needs are met. He can do that while being respectful to his wife but still not meeting her physical and emotional needs. While the marriage may not be amazing, he could still be a great dad. It is too bad though because with that effort, it wouldn't take much more to be a great partner

Not in a married couple. Not these days.

to an extent

What do you mean by "this card"? I've never heard a man say this. Absolutely someone can be a good parent whilst not being a good spouse but it sounds like you're being told they can't possibly be both, it's one or the other? Which I don't believe to be true! Sure, there are times that being parents can get in the way of putting in all the effort to a relationship but it sounds like this particular situation someone is blaming kids for the fact he is a rubbish partner 🤔🤔🤔

@Rachel there is no situation as I'm happily married and thankfully my husband is both. Not all the time as he does put in more effort to be the best dad he could be as opposed to the best partner. I don't have an issue at the moment with that. The question I proposed is because after a guys' night out my husband bought me the question. I gave my answer and was just curious what a community of women/moms thought as I have the male perspective.

Obviously there are plenty of dads who are amazing fathers and aren't married. My question was for those couples who are married and/or living together with their spouses.

I don’t think it correlates tbh, I was watching a debate on marriage and this known divorce lawyer said he hears all the time, he’s a great dad and ex husband but he was a horrible husband so I don’t think the paternal relationship depends on the parental relationship unless it bleeds in then there’s an issue

Oh my bad just read your last comment, but I would suggest watching the divorce lawyer! He encourages relationships very good w words and telling others perspectives. His name is James Sexton

My dad was an amazing father, but had two phones during most of the relationships I’d seen him in.

So yes, you can be a great father and a bad partner. I’ve seen it first hand.

I don’t think it’s possible to be a good father bt a bad Husband. I think men who are bad partners are also automatically bad fathers. Back when I wasn’t married, like as a child I can say that my dad was a great dad bt he is a terrible partner bt now that I’m older with a Husband of my own and a child I know for a fact that those two aren’t possible. My mom deserved better, we deserved better as the kids even tho he was a quote on quote “good father” him being bad partner made him a bad dad

I’m very shocked at this post has been up 7hrs and the 70% of the women in this app. Believe he can be one & not the other. Women and society as a whole is definitely letting these men get away with a lot.