My stepdaughter attacked my son last night.
Now that it’s been 24 hours, I feel like I may be able to put my absolute rage into words.
Last night, my oldest stepdaughter was REPEATEDLY punching my son in the chest if he pissed her off. I made it very clear that she needed to stop because I was fed up after everything else she’s done lately.
Well she punched him again and I muttered under my breath “one of these days he’s gonna hit you back and you’re not going to like it” right as I said it, he smacked her on the arm. Not even hard cause let’s get real he’s 7 and a stick 😅 but suddenly she attacks him. Punching and kicking him repeatedly. She grabbed him by his hair, slammed his head into the wall then pulled him to the ground and bashed his head into the dogs kennel.
It all happened so so quickly but it felt like years passed it was awful. My son was screaming in a way I’ve never heard. My youngest stepdaughter and I both jumped to his aid and we were trying to get her off. It took us picking her up and throwing her (literally throwing her) into the kitchen to make her stop. Then my son noticed all the blood and LOST IT. She was getting ready to go back for round 2 when my husband came racing out of the bedroom, tried grabbing her but she shoved him. So he gets ahold of her and throws her on the couch, but she jumped up and ran upstairs. He chased after her. I got my son into the bathroom to stop the bleeding (it was all his nose and aside from his side being sore he is okay physically but emotionally even 24 hours later he’s still shaken and scared) oldest stepdaughter comes running down the stairs as I get my son sitting down with tissues up his nose to stop the bleeding so I went to her, held her against the wall and demanded to know why she thought she could lay her hands on him that way. I reminded her that SHE started it and he had a right to defend himself, what she did was BEYOND assault and she won’t EVER lay a finger on him again. I was yelling and she didn’t even say a word, just smiled at me. I have no idea what happened after my husband chased her upstairs but he came back down looking MURDEROUS and he started throwing clothes on, demanded she grab her shoes and bag she brought and as soon as she had her bag he dragged her out to the van and left. So she is not here now thank god. But there’s still blood on my floor that I can’t get out and the mental images of it all are on replay in my mind.
The police were called, because tbh that’s the right thing to do and I don’t even care that she’s only 13. She assaulted him and I’m not letting her get away with this shit anymore. Well they refused to do anything. They said “siblings fight”. Wouldn’t come out to get a report. Wouldn’t come out to even look at the blood or my son’s nose to see that I was telling them the truth on what happened.
We’ve been informed that we HAVE TO have her back next month (conveniently during my damn birthday week so there goes my birthday down the drain) but over my dead body will she be allowed back in this house. I’m done.
She is violent, she is rude, she is AWFUL to everybody and I’ve dealt with this shit for eight years. I absolutely won’t be dealing with it anymore. This happened less than an hour after finding her “hate” list which I earned top spot in and I have NEVER done anything to deserve the way she treats me. Never. She’s been like this since the beginning and I thought it was just little kid things but it’s escalated badly in the last couple of years. I’m called every damn name in the book, reminded that I’m worthless all the time and oh I’m not a good mom because I don’t cater to her materialistic self buying her whatever she wants and brand name clothes/shoes and I don’t make 20 course meals three times a fucking day.
She’s been threatening to leave marks on herself so she can claim her dad or I did it to her. She’s threatened to tell the cops that we don’t feed her when she gets three decent sized meals and two snacks every day. Plus she is thirteen she can feed herself?! Like I have always done it but that sure as hell made me like ok I won’t feed you then you’re old enough to cook small things on your own.
I used to be so happy and patient and she has turned me into this impatient, overwhelmed and constantly pissed off person and I hate it. I do not want her here. Her dad does not want her here. Nobody wants her here because she puts us all through hell. I’m hoping this incident is what it will take to get her HELP. She needs inpatient behavioral therapy. If it’s not, I’m questioning how far she needs to take this before something is finally done. Because that was MY last straw. I am heartbroken for my son, heartbroken for my other stepdaughter, heartbroken for my three year old who witnessed it all and was screaming at her to stop hurting her bubba and couldn’t stop crying and shaking after the fact. This child clearly has something going on, but when I ask she gets in my face and laughs and goes “I’m perfectly fine. The only psycho bitch here is you.” So she won’t even talk to me and let me help. That’s all I’ve wanted to do is help. But she won’t let me in. I get it. I’m the stepmom. Stepmoms are kinda just hated. I am fine with that, she doesn’t HAVE TO like me. But she needs to learn to respect me and she needs to start talking or she’s going to spiral even further.
This fucking sucks.
Can only include one pic but that’s the blood that initially made us realize his nose was bleeding, he wiped it on his sleeve and the rest was on the wall and floor and some on the dogs kennel I was able to get cleaned up. It took about half an hour to get it to stop.
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we have tried everything with her aside from inpatient behavioral centers. Which I believe she needs. Badly.
Bio mom lives nearby but the girls are here for summer vacation. Not sure if we will be taking the oldest for awhile though cause I just fucking cannot.
I have a few videos of her this past week but didn’t get this on video. My sister and I were on FaceTime when it happened and she saw the beginning and thank god was screen recording. But I had to hang up to make sure I got my child to safety.
all scans were normal thankfully. He did say his side hurts a bit today but they checked him over really good last night.
I want to go show them everything but I’m pretty sure it won’t help. I doubt they even put anything on file about it when I called. They won’t do shit til he’s seriously injured or she seriously injures someone else :( the cops are worthless here.
She is a spoilt violent cow. She could have killed him. I'd be pressing charges too. All the way. Make her stand up and account for her disgusting actions in front of other adults.
Age of criminal responsibility in the UK is 10. She knows exactly what she's doing and if she's old enough to do it she's old enough to take the consequences.
Is there not some legal way of stopping her coming back if she literally nearly killed your son? I'd say she is a clear danger to his LIFE. I wouldn't even open the door to her. Stop giving her stuff too. Everything gets removed. Phone, make up, any electronic device she has. She gets her 3 meals a day and that's it. Stick her in her bedroom and make her stay there. This is what has caused this.
I'd get a camera too that records in the house so it's recording her behaviour. Every communal area. Every outburst. Make sure the footage is saved.
Also. This "he's going to hit you back one day"
That speaks volumes.
My step son is 4 and he hits just once he loses every privilege he has. There's no hitting more than once because he loses everything and gets removed to his bedroom and he stays there until he understands his behaviour. I will not tolerate it. Not even a little bit.
This sounds like the teens I works with. Given this just happened you have the documentation for a residential level of care or at least PHP because at 13 a whole new world of options open up more so than when they’re younger. Call around and get an intake and tell them all this new information. That way she can get support she needs and y’all can stay safe because there’s no way this goes back to “normal” without intervention
She definitely needs serious therapy or intervention, the violence she used is sick! I would keep her away for a while but what would you do if she was your bio kid or your husband had full custody and you didn't have the option to keep her out the house with bio mum?
Your job is to keep your children safe and you do not HAVE to have her back there dispite what anyone has said to you and noone can forced the dad to have her either if he doesnt want to.
She needs help and her mum and dad need to get that for her asap
If the police took it seriously then that would force her to get the help regardless so id make a complaint to them
I would contact your local authority children’s services for support.
They may help to stop her visiting as it’s not safe for your other children, whilst also looking into what support may be beneficial to her and any referrals to other services that may need to take place
Ring mash or social services before it gets any worse and she does something that can’t be taken back or washed away . Keep your children and pets away from her if this is the way she acts
I’d call the police back but I’d use the non emergency line. Tell them the entire situation and that this she has gotten out of hand and you feel pressing charges and getting her arrested will give her the reality check she needs for her actions. Make sure they understand that she has become a danger to others in the home. If they can’t do that they can at least get you in contact with a in patient program.
I would of grabbed her the moment she laid hands on my son and held her down until police got there or honestly locked her out of the house
US. I argued with them for a long time and they still were refusing to sadly I don’t think they have any interest in helping :(
she was repeatedly dragged away from him, told multiple times to get away from him, I even threatened to do the same to her cause I was so fed up. She’s supposed to be grounded to her room for a full month now for stealing from him ($23 out of his piggy bank that she still “promises” wasn’t her but it sure wasn’t anyone else, plus her behavior toward everyone kept adding to what was initially a week which I felt was too lenient) but She kept sneaking down and even if he’d look at her it pissed her off and she would snap before I could even jump up to get her away. I cannot stand this kid 😩
She’s bad at her mom’s, too. But apparently not “as” bad. She’s still violent and chases her siblings there with knives and threatens them, but she’s never actually full on attacked the way she did my son. And oh no she won’t be coming back. Her mom said even if we “hog tie her and throw her in the basement” she has to. And while that thought is tempting, I don’t want her here at all.
I wanted to do everything to her that she did to him. I know that makes me sound so so awful…. But that’s my baby. Not the youngest but he’s still my baby. Seeing her hurt him like that caused such a deep rage I’d never felt before.
my fear with that is her threats to say we hurt her when we never have. That and youngest stepdaughter is so scared to have to leave. She wants to stay here permanently which I am more than okay with. I’m afraid they’d take her out of the home too instead of letting her stay with us.
I would try to secretly record next time you think she’s going to threaten to say you’ve hurt her so you have evidence that she’s lying to be spiteful x
Omg I’m sorry but she’s a little psychopath. It kept getting worse and even at the moms house with the knifes ??? That just proves it’s her and not something at your house triggering her. I just saw a tiktok where a mom had to take her child for impatient therapy because they got to harming the other kids. Threatening to harm herself and blame it on your guys is INSANE. She needs to go somewhere because once she gets to high school it will be HELL. Tell the bio mom everything and how she’s not aloud back in the home. This may push her to get her impatient somewhere.
I'm shocked and I can't imagine what I would do in that scenario, under no circumstances would I have her back in my home, something is clearly going on and if noone can manage it I'm sorry I would report to social services as she's a risk to other children and herself.
They wouldnt do that to the youngest. But you do need to safeguard all of the children against the oldest. Social workers will see through her accusations, they would speak with other professionals too such as school who will have not seen any marks on her and will have seen her behaviour so you don’t need to worry about that
I feel for your son! He must be traumatized. And as long as she’s around, he will live in fear. There are many questions here…
Where did dad take her?
you sound like this has been going on for awhile. Why? Has dad and her mom not looked into her issues? Have you heard of ODD? It’s a thing.
I keep hearing you and her, you and her….how is her relationship with her father/rest of the family? She needs help. Her father needs to take her. Why ask her? She’s living under your roof and that’s it.
As far as the Police go, could you have gone to the station? It needs to be on record.
I’m only going with the info that you have provided.
I hope your son is ok. Protect him!
PUT UP CAMERAS!! Everywhere (of course excluding bathrooms). That way if she does come back she can't tell her little lies! I'm so sorry this is happening to you! But along with protecting your kids, the camera will help protect you! That kid need military school!
I’m sure she realizes she isn’t wanted there. No one has tried to get her help and see what’s going on?
Put up cameras asap. Protect your other children from getting hurt again. That little girl needs some help. She most likely needs some therapy. I’m sorry you have to deal with that her speaking to you that way, and beating your son, especially in front of the other kids and a three year-old is awful.
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