Emotional Affair

I mean he’s kinda not being open and upfront with you still. He wouldn’t open up and talk about the issues in your relationship to another woman if he just wanted his ego stroked. I know some people do stuff like that because they genuinely do want their ego stroked, men and women… they feel unseen by their partner so they entertain others to feel good. However I feel like there’s more to it and he’s just gonna have to be honest and open about his feelings.

We’ve had conversations about the issues in our relationship and the overall point is that he feels like he needs me to prioritise h more and show him more love and affection and I feel like I need him to make more effort to make plans for us. He had said that he wants us to keep working on things until we’re both happy but I didn’t expect him to be doing this on the side! Give your brutal honest truth and opinion x

Yeah, this is so typical, most relationships go through this stage, it just depends on how people handle it. He’s not wrong for wanting love and affection, but he also needs to understand that things have changed. There’s a baby now, and priorities naturally shift. You both need to be intentional about making time for each other, but it won’t look like it did before.

Where he’s really struggling is in accepting that, he lacks the maturity to embrace the new reality, so instead he’s feeding his ego by entertaining this other girl. I don’t think he actually wants her though, he wants that perfect family life with you, but since it’s not playing out how he imagined, he’s acting out. And even though he hasn’t met up with her yet, the danger is that once people cross that line once… it gets messy.

I also think the fact that we both come from single parent house holds and don’t have many married people around us, it’s difficult to seek counsel. All his siblings have children but are not with the partners and the same for his friends. I know he truly wants a family life but honestly we both need help getting there. He said we need to try something new and move away or take a risk but he’s not happy with his current life and reality. It’s just figuring out what the ext steps are… ?

Thanks I needed to confide in someone ❤️✨

Honestly, thank you for sharing that, it really makes sense. The lack of examples around you both must make it even harder to navigate all this. It’s like you’re trying to build something beautiful with no blueprint, while also raising a baby and managing emotions. It sounds like he’s craving that family life but doesn’t know how to handle the reality of it, especially when it doesn’t match the picture in his head.

You’re so self-aware though, and that alone is powerful. Maybe it’s not about making big changes right away, but figuring out what small, intentional steps you can both take to rebuild something real. You’re not alone in this ❤️✨

Wow thank you so much! Last thing I have to ask if how do you remain so calm and soft, I can tell that you are! I didn’t grow up seeing examples of a woman treating a man right and I’m still working on my approach, that’s where I can hold myself accountable🙌🏾✨