How upset would you be if your partner told you to fuck off during a disagreement?

Me being me. I’d be like “oright, that’s cool. Remember you said that” and then don’t talk to him but again that’s just me

I understand people can speak before thinking in disagreements🫣 but I think cause you’ve said he knows how much it hurts you, that doesn’t sounds great,
I’d talk to him about it!
Hope you’re ok!

So with my Ex-husband.. I couldn't have cared less, he was a complete dick and most of our arguments would end in one of us telling the other to fuck off..
However, if my current fiance told me to fuck off, id be so upset. We don't and never have spoken to each other that way. I mean, we both swear a LOT, and to each other in conversation, but not at each other.
The other day, we had a minor disagreement and he said 'fuck it, I'll just cancel the fucking course then' and as silly as it sounds, it actually hurt me that he spoke to me that way, amd he was mortified and so apologetic that he spoke that way to me too x

Is he going through something? Is he stressed? I know this doesn’t excuse the behavior but sometimes men want women to be their peace. They don’t want to disagree after working all day. He might be taking it out on you accidentally. My partner did this to me once but apologized after because he was so mad about something that happened at work

He's an amazing man most of the time but when we argue he can be so disrespectful and it's got to the point that I don't want to be with someone who talks to me the way he does even if it's only some of the time. But we have a 4 month old son and I can't stand the thought of him not having his Mum and Dad together or to have to share custody and not see him every day.

Honestly, fuck off isn't a big deal for me (or my husband) and we both say it more than we should in an argument. For me, saying "shut up" or anything about being stupid or thick is a trigger, and if my husband said that, I'd be upset. The fact your husband knows it upsets you but is using it is the problem in my eyes, and not what he actually said x

He has now apologised after cooling off but I don’t think he understands how hurtful it is. I want him to take it more seriously

Eww no. Im big on respect, I wont ever tell him that so he should never say that to me. We mutually dont ever swear at each other because its a trigger for me, so if he did, there’ll be big problems.