Question for the "girl moms".. do you ever feel some "boy moms" invalidate your parenting struggles/make out like being a "boy mom" is harder?

I have a boy but I've recently met a woman who said give her boys any day, girls are hard

I do find the whole ‘boy mum’ and ‘girl mum’ thing ridiculous. Every single child has their own personality, people who have had multiple children, even of the same gender, will tell you that. And at the end of the day, a toddler is a toddler regardless.

to be fair I’ve also heard this from several people who have both genders x

I have a daughter and she is wild plus the attitude!! every child has different personalities

A few friends know we're having a boy and they've said "It's about to be dinosaurs and monster trucks for you guys!" And I was confused because our daughter is OBSESSED with dinosaurs and hot wheels? Or we get "he's about to be feral!" But... our daughter is feral as fuck. I mean today she was howling back and forth with some random kid... she saw the child and then barked at her🤣🤷🏾‍♀️

Boy mum here (still tiny though) and honestly he is the easiest ATM. All the girl mums I know are having a really hard time because they just aren't sleeping. My boy be lazy! The boy mums your talking about are probably just playing into a stereotype. Every kid has their own personality and will test you in different ways.

🤣 my little one loves her doll house and kitchen, painting, cooking but she also LOVES building, playing with cars, can talk about dinos and sting rays. She doesn't mimic sounds in that way but right now she's a "big puppy dog" so she barks... I'm public. At the store. If someone says hi she barks. 🤣🤷🏾‍♀️

I'm a boy mom, but I am also a preschool teacher to toddlers and I've always thought the girls were harder! Boys can be wild but in my experience the girls can be wild and highly emotional! Also I don't understand why anyone would invalidate what you're going through based on gender 🙄 all babies/ toddlers can be hard despite gender!

A mom of 2 girls here. My eldest is going to be 2 soon and I always say she is the boy God didn’t give me 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 because she is also high energy, loves anything with wheels (cars) and is also a little feral but I wouldn’t want her any other way.

As for my friends that have boys.. yes one or 2 struggle and then I’ve got a friend whose son is so easy, soft and sweet.

I agree with most of the moms here EACH child is different and we should never compare genders.

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I have one of each but in real life I never hear people talk this way. I think as said it’s very personality driven and based on temperament. And everyone knows all toddlers are crazy in their own way lol.

Interestingly though, a larger portion of male brains is devoted to movement (that’s how they learn things as their body “resets” and processes this way) and a larger portion of female brains is devoted to linguistics. I’m a teacher and took a brain based learning course when getting my masters.

Haven’t read through all the comments but my own take - as a mom of both a boy and a girl plus having hung out with literal hundreds of babies and toddlers over the past 2.5 years, on the whole boys are a Lot harder. There are Obviously the ‘easy’ boys and the ‘hard’ girls out there no doubt. But in my experience that number is significantly smaller than the other way round. Boy babies and toddlers (again most not all) tend to be so so difficult and I’m sorry but I’m one of those moms. If you only have girls you probably have No Clue. Things will switch the other way when they’re teens that’s for sure

Boy mom here lol my boy is an angel compared to my 3yo sister-in-law 💀 that girl is absolutely feral. Not to say that girls or boys are worse lol every kid is different and like you said they’re toddlers they go through their phases and no woman/Mom should ever diminish another over something so dumb like that we’re all mamas and we all go through our tough times we should just be there for each other and support each other

I've got one of each (now teens) + a baby and my boy hasn't been feral, he's always been very active but so was his sister. I don't get the boy mom vs girl mom, honestly! Each child is different and comes with their own personality and challenges.

Boy mum here and I honestly don't get the boys mum vs girl mum. I don't think sex/ gender has anything to do with how they innately behave. My 3.5yo is the wild feral child (he has some many other amazing qualities too). One of his best friends is a girl and she is also wild like my son. Yet my youngest son at 1 is the complete opposite and very chilled. It's just who they are

this is funny af cause i had the opposite experience once, i was being cordial with this lady at the park because her her daughter found her way over to my son to play. lady shows up, watches my kid squealing and running around, & goes "oh boys are so wild and over the place, you must have your hands full!".........when her daughter was just there playing with my son moments before LOL. idk why people assign behaviors to sex, it feels like pseudoscience bs

can we just identify as toddler moms when going through these times?

I've the opposite experience I've got 1 boy and expecting another in September and everyone always says "oh you're lucky boys are so much easier" and my response to that is always, well I wouldn't know would I? Pretty certain all babys and toddlers are roughly the same in the beginning

I’m a boy mom but has never done or said anything to other moms of opposite gender. I have two boys and I wanted a girl to have a mini me. i always feel she’d be a lot worse than her brothers 😅

My oldest is 5 (has ADHD, very hyperactive, stubborn, ect,.)

My youngest is 7 months old.

They were both easy as a baby. My oldest a little bit more advanced, walked at 8 months old.

I have a niece who we raised for the first year or so before we had our own kids. She’s more tomboy than anything.

I’m a both mom and my girl is much more wild lol.

Hehehe I am both boy and girl mom and tbh boys are harder because they are a little more emotional and not as quick. My daughter is easier for sure. Smarter and faster but her tantrums are longer and she's more defiant and that's hard. I think each child has their challenges. U r correct that they both can be hard.

It doesn’t bother me. I have both. I just ignore it lol.

I had a girl first and then a boy. I felt the same until I had my boy, and then I understood. Enough said 😂

I think it depends on the child. Not the sex. I agree probably AI

that’s depend of the personality. I have been a nanny for many years. The more difficult kid I had was actually a girl. What I noticed is boys like to move a lot they are very active yet if you want them to do things on your way they are easy to follow. Girls are more difficult. Because they are very bright it’s much harder to use distractions for avoid certain situations, they know it is for distracting them. Both gender has got their challenges.

I have a friend who “top trumps” me whenever I talk about having a hard time that her boys are harder or have done something worse that same day.
I’ve given up chatting to her about it lol

I have a mix of boys & girls & honestly I really don’t think it’s that deep 🤣🤣

I have a boy and a girl and honestly my boy is super energetic and wild but my daughter is also pretty wild lol. AND challenging in different ways. Every kid is different and some girls are more wild than some boys! I’m not sure why people feel the need to make it a competition.