On the brink of divorce caused by 🌽 addiction
My husband has a long-term porn addiction that’s had a major impact on our relationship and my well-being. It’s not just casual use — it became compulsive and included hardcore porn, cam girls, and sexting real women. The worst part is that this continued during my pregnancy, even after he promised to stop. I found out he was messaging and sexting other women while I was carrying our son. That broke something in me.
The betrayal was especially painful because I was in such a vulnerable place — physically, emotionally, and mentally. During pregnancy and postpartum, I should have felt supported and safe, but instead I felt unwanted, rejected, and emotionally abandoned. I’ve struggled with anxiety, sadness, and a deep sense of loneliness ever since.
He’s admitted it’s an addiction and has been in therapy, but even after that, he continued to lie and relapse. It wasn’t just the porn — it was the constant secrecy and broken trust that made me feel like I was losing myself in the process of trying to hold everything together.
Now we’re at a last-ditch effort to rebuild anything at all. He no longer has access to the internet — no smartphone, no Xbox, no Wi-Fi, and only has a pay-as-you-go phone with no internet access. It’s the only way he literally CANT. That’s the only way I feel any kind of safety or control while I focus on protecting my peace and being there for my son. I’m honestly just trying to survive this one day at a time. I told him it was that or divorce and he said he will do it so here we are /: I just can’t have him getting any type of custody unless they were supervised if we divorce and also I don’t have anywhere to go. What do I doooooo
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Hi I’m truly sorry to hear that i would suggest creating a plan and stick to it even if things get better. I know u said u have no where to go think if there is any family that can eventually take u for even a few weeks is there a friend who can rent u a room and for how long. Do u have anyone who would babysit your child? If he gives u money save some and don’t touch it at all. First of all even if you do not have money as long as u have somewhere u can call home they are more than likely to give u the child as long as u show your their main care taker I used to work in family law in Oregon. In court they care more about who has been consistent in the child’s life and if u have a home. In addition if you are in USA there are a lot of women and children only shelters check if your state has “catholic charities” and see if they have a women’s shelter. If u have a religion ask the person in charge if they have any resources for you my brother is LDS and they have previously helped him
Ok there is a limit feel free to private message me I don’t have experience with “p**n addiction” however I have worked in the criminal justice system a long time and I previously worked at a women’s shelter I’ve done extensive volunteer work so I can usually get people started and connected with resources it is NEVER easy to leave but u don’t want to be old and wish u had started years earlier
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