Annoying gender stereotypes
I have a friend who always insists that girls are more hard work than boys.
I’ve got both — a boy and, more recently, a girl. And honestly, that comment really bugs me.
My little boy has always been on the more emotional side. We’ve dealt with meltdowns almost daily for the past year and a half. He’s my whole world, and we navigate his big feelings together. It’s not always easy, but it’s our normal.
So when she makes those sweeping comments about girls being harder, I find it frustrating, especially seeing as she’s not had a boy. She has two girls. It just feels like a generalisation that doesn’t reflect the reality many of us live.
Every child is different. Personality, temperament, and emotional needs don’t follow a pink or blue pattern. Would you agree?
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I have 3 girls and whilst I believe that 3 girls together so close in age is just pure evil shenanigans at work I also know I have no idea what raising a boy is like... I also know my own 3 are so different there is no point comparing levels of difficult anyway because there are so many factors to consider.
It reminds me of my mom when she would say I wish you have a daughter just like you so you understand how I feel- like what?!? Of course I grew up and realized my mom was just a narcissist who was jealous of me cuz her mom liked me more… so yeah it sounds like your friend has some internalized misogyny unfortunately
I agree, though my mum would say girls are harder 😅 but I was a very defiant toddler where my brother was chill and just asked to send me back every chance he got 🤣
hell yea!! this is also why i do not understand gender disappointment
I think she probably actually means “I’m struggling and having a harder time than I thought, everyone always told me ‘Girls are easy, you’ll be fine!’ But it’s actually hard and I don’t feel like anyone is acknowledging that.”
She’s probably just not realizing what she is saying is problematic.
If she’s your friend then say something about it. Like “Hey; I don’t think either gender is harder, but I recognize that raising kids is hard and I also struggle sometimes, let’s not play the who has it harder game and just support each other.”
Interesting, I always hear that girls are easier until their teens. But all kids have their own personalities 🤷♀️
Ill be honest this depends on the child not the gender. I have a little girl and she's the easiest baby you'll ever see. Never crys, never upset and listens well. Not fussy with food. Easy to put down for a nap. Slept through from 2 weeks old. Just a dream baby.
It's down to the personality not the gender
I agree it’s down to personality. Me and my siblings are all different. Boys and girls. My middle brother was the most chilled and placid. My eldest brother used to hit and scratch. I used to throw huge temper tantrums. Gender doesn’t matter here
I feel like boys are harder lol
Theres always going to be evidence for both so it’s actually all dependent on your opinion
IMO People say girls are harder because they emotionally neglect their boys and teach them to repress their feelings.
I don’t think gender has anything to do with it.
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