I’m so lost
How do you cope knowing your partner doesn’t love you anymore. We’ve had trouble for a while to where he never kisses me or anything anymore . The only time he tries to be intimate is when he’s heavily drunk. I have a new job now, trying to get financially stable to leave as he told me once he’s only with me still because of our daughter. This was a few moths after an argument that lead us to break up for maybe 10 hrs and I had went to my parents, he asked me to come home but nothing improved or changed. I was still the problem to him. I just don’t know how to deal with this lack of love in the mean time. He says it from how I act or respond to him but I act upset and mad because it feels like he doesn’t love me? Like I don’t get any affection. But he says he does want to give affection to someone who’s “mean all the time” he says it because I “walk over him” because he was paying the bills. I would have been able to pay half if he had let me continue a job in my field, but he didn’t want to watch her at night so I could work. I finally found a bartending/ kitchen job that pays amazing and will work with the m-f daytime schedule that’s paying me well, so in a week I can pay for half of everything and more.
Can I fix this or should I walk away once financially stable?
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If u don't want to give up continue to communicate with him n both have to give the same amount that can continue to grow...yall need to sit down n talk completely bout everything
In a very similar predicament, I’m working on my exit strategy. It’s been 3 years of hoping and working to make things better. I have to focus on being the best version of myself for me and my children. The emotional damage from feeling rejected everyday is taking a toll and I refuse to keep living this way. I’m here if you ever want to talk. Sending hugs 🫂 ❤️
First and foremost, if you believe in Jesus, pray about it. Let God lead you in the right direction.
Second, find ways to build up your friendships with strong women who can encourage you through hard times and rejoice with you when things are getting better. Also, try and find a small hobby that brings you joy. Pour into your own cup metaphorically. Take your baby on strolls around the block if your daughter is a baby/toddler.
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