My son won't let me wash his hair
My son is 3, he is a biracial child Jamaican and Scottish. His hair reaches down to his shoulders and is every bit an afro it's hard to gauge but somewhere between a 4A/4B.
Every day is a battle with his hair but wash day pretty much brings me to tears, he will scream like somebody is murdering him bite, scratch, hit anything to get me away. He will start crying/screaming as soon I start, from the minute I start to apply shampoo it gets progressively worse as soon as I start to detangle. I only wash his hair once a week, I have tried different shampoos different brushes/combs but he literally doesn't even like me touching his hair.
His hair is beautiful but I have gotten to the point where I am considering getting it cut to a more manageable length, would you cut it or keep on trying to figure it out??
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If he doesn’t want to get it washed and stuff just cut it off. Take her to black barber tho to get it cut they will know what to do.
Oh this is sad! I’m sorry mama. I think try do it in sections and after each section where he has been calm/good offer up a really excited high 5 or treat. Work your way up from there. Use lots of conditioner and a wide tooth comb
I would suggest getting a detangling brush, which would make it a lot less painful for it to go through his hair, and I would also try applying some natural oils like Moroccan oil or coconut oil to soften his hair to make it easier to brush through after you get it Soaking wet so it’s easier to brush hopefully that helps 😊💕
I feel like I've got every detangle brush out there, tangle tweezer wet brush denman the classic wide tooth combs but I can't even get near him without the screaming he always says it hurts. He even says it hurts when I spritz his hair with water to try and style. I try and detangle in the shower with his hair wet drenched in conditioner and coconut oil but it doesn't seem to help.
I've also considered giving him locs as my friend is a loctician but I don't think he'll sit while she did it and then there's the maintenance.
I say cut it now and when he gets older if he says he wants his hair long he can always grow it back.
I sat with my son in the chair when he got his first cut and he was 1 years old. Have a a kind of treat or something for him to watch even toys.
Poor thing!
I agree with cutting it, as even if that’s a battle, it’ll be much less often and make wash days much shorter and less stressful for you both. You can start to show him how to wash it himself (with supervision and gelp from you of course) if it’s quite short with little tangle.
Also, you can try a few different barbers. I have seen some who are absolutely MAGICAL with kids. And it’s usually not the over the top “HEY BUDDY! WANNA SIT IN THE RACECAR?! 😃” ones lol that’s overstimulating and scary, but the really chill ones who act like haircuts are no biggie, vibes like ‘you’re a big man going to sit in the big chair like all the other guys around and we’re not all going to stare at you,’ and who show the kids the tools first and let them feel/hear the buzzing before just grabbing their head and shaving. Good luck!
Do you touch his hair when its not wash day like hairdressers?
Or being in the bath when washing his head?
Doing those may help, but with the length I don't blame you if you want to trim it
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