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TTC: Canada

I need to vent, I’m so frustrated with our fertility clinic..

Ok I’ll try to make this as short as possible.
My wife and I were hoping to get pregnant with our 2nd child in June of this year. Knowing how long things can take from our previous experience, we started the process in January. Did bloodwork, swabs, all the tests to make sure all is good to start.
In March they told me I had urea plasma and I could treat it if I wanted. I said yes and did a week of antibiotics. They never tested me to make sure it was gone, and never treated my wife. I didn’t realize at the time it could be passed..
We had our IUI in June with our last vial from the same donor we used to get our son. It ended in a chemical pregnancy… I then asked them to swab me again for urea plasma. A week after I did the swab they called and said they just realized they never swabbed my wife and asked her to come in.. My results then came back positive, it’s been over two weeks and we haven’t heard anything about my wife.
We then found out that they never test the partners, they always treat both if one has it. I’m positive we’ve just been passing it back and forth and I know it’s why we had the miscarriage.. They won’t treat us and are making me have a consult about treatment with the doctor which I was told today the soonest she can see me is September 23rd..
I’m so frustrated and I can’t stop crying.. If they had just treated us both in March, this probably wouldn’t have happened.. I’m trying to get over the fact that our kids won’t have the same donor but it’s hard.. I don’t want to wait longer and I know once they treat us we’ll have to wait 2 more weeks after the antibiotics because I’ll want to swab again to avoid another miscarriage. Not to mention all the money we just spent on more sperm 😭. I’m feeling so heartbroken and helpless just sitting here waiting and waiting when this all could’ve been avoided. 💔