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January 2026 Babies 🇬🇧

Don’t lose hope on ur baby daddy

When I found out I was pregnant back in May my baby daddy literally threatened to commit suicide if I didn’t get an abortion. He sent me paragraphs all day everyday for 2 month about how I was ruining his life. How I wasn’t going to be a good mom and he never wanted to be a dad and he BEGGED me for abortion. He said he would resent me forever and he hated me and would never forgive me if I kept the baby and he was downright cruel. I would show him ultrasound photos and videos hoping it would change him and he would say “don’t send me that shit” he told me i was an embarrassment and i ruined all the plans he had for his life and he wasnt going to be the father. It honestly would’ve been better if he had just disappeared in comparison to the verbal abuse i got from simply wanting my baby. He prayed day and night for a miscarriage and would even try and get me to drink in hopes of a miscarriage but obviously I wouldn’t. And he even tried to convince my mom to convince me to have an abortion. He was desperately against this baby. I had to stay strong. Around 15 weeks he accepted that I wasn’t having an abortion and there was minimal chance of miscarriage. He begged to pay for me to go to states that I could still get an abortion in as we were past the legal weeks our state would allow for abortion. But I would not. He was severely depressed I was pregnant and wouldn’t get out of bed. He was still pissed even at 15 weeks when he accepted it was a real life. He started begging for adoption and I said no. I’m raising my baby. U don’t have to but I’m going to. I thought maybe just maybe when he meets the baby he’ll have a change of heart but with everything he was saying and feeling I was sure I was going to be a single mom and was planning for that.
Now 21 weeks pregnant and our baby girl is the love of his life. He has apologized for his cruelty and says he is so grateful I didn’t have an abortion and he doesn’t want adoption he wants his baby. He SO happy we are having a baby. He comes to every appointment, pays for everything and is even letting me be a stay at home mom and not work and me and baby are going to be moving in with him and he’s going to take care of us both. We’re naming our babys middle name after his late mother (she committed suicide so he didn’t want to make it the first name as he naturally has mixed feelings about the way she passed) and the baby will have his last name. Her first name is Clara because he is OBSESSED with the Nutcracker and he’s so excited about her name and has dreams about her being a ballerina and a soccer player and is already making plans to fend off future boys who try and date his daughter. He’s spending time mending our obviously tainted relationship and begs me not to tell our daughter he wanted an abortion (obviously I would never tell my daughter that) he says he thought he would never love a woman more than his mom but Clara is now the most important person to him in the whole wide world. The man made a complete 180. I never saw it coming And it was kinda over night. He defends our family to any naysayers and has even gone sober with me to show support because I can’t drink. He’s an accountant so he does alright financially but is now taking extra work, working late and on weekend so he can give her everything. He’s Going above and beyond. He taking infant cpr classes and reads everything there is to know about pregnancy and raising a baby. The man couldn’t be more excited to be a father to his little girl and is bragging to all his friends he’s going to be a father to the most perfect little girl.
I’m sharing this with you women because I know some of you probably have men who aren’t on board with you having a baby but there is HOPE! Give ur man time. The shock of a pregnancy can invoke extreme reactions but they CAN AND DO come around. I know this isn’t every man but some men just need time to digest. Mine was the worst of the worst, literally when he said he was going to commit suicide like he meant it. Like obviously with his mom committing suicide it’s mental illness that runs in the family and he takes medicine so he doesn’t get that low but this baby made Life wasn’t worth living for him if I didn’t have an abortion. I chose baby over his threats. But now life isn’t worth living for him without his baby girl.
I want to encourage women that MEN CAN CHANGE. And don’t do something because he says this or that. Men need time to adjust to the idea of being a father. And it’s not all men. But I’m hoping my story can help give women hope to keep doing what THEY WANT with or without the man and know that SOME men DO come around in astronomical ways. Maybe it’ll take your man meeting the baby face to face. Maybe it will be sooner. I think most men do come around. Obviously some walk out and don’t come back and they are trash humans for doing that but don’t let a man’s negative energy make YOUR CHOICE. U got this with or without him. But if my man came around. There really is hope for them all. This has been an emotional roller coaster for me. Our relationship still isn’t fully healed from those early cruel days but we are headed in the right direction. Now all I’m dealing with is a jealous ex 🙄 but I hope my story helps someone out there. Even when it seems like they will never come around to being a father, they just might surprise you and turn out to be the best dad ever. 🥰 chat me if u need support. I’m here for all of you.
Also, I did have an abortion in 2015 with a different pregnancy and if ur considering it, just know I’ve never met a women who didn’t regret abortion and I regret mine and I was mentally sick for 10 years after my abortion like went to the mental hospital I was so messed up by it. You’d rather let ur baby live I promise. If anyone needs more info on the realities of how abortion affects the mother please reach out.
God bless you all.