Birth guilt

Neither of my births went to “plan”. I did get the vaginal birth I wanted second time but can’t say it was calm 😂 I said never again straight after. I know some people love it but I’ve had to accept that I don’t my body doesn’t do things in a straight forward way and that’s ok. As long as you and baby are safe and ok that’s the main thing. Nothing else matters

I think it's very normal to have those feelings as long as it's not affecting your mental health. Whilst we do our research for the kind of birth we want, we all come across all these people who had natural births at home, that we should trust our bodies because that's what they were made for, like no woman ever died giving birth before C-sections and so many procedures were introduced to help us and our babies. Some women will have easy births but most don't, just like all our bodies are different. If it helps, I still feel guilty I couldn't do the golden hour with my son and his first feed was a bottle because I had to be rushed to theatre, but I'm still grateful to my body because it made a perfect little human, it just struggled to push it out!

Your body did exactly what I needed to do to get your baby here whether that was a vaginal or c section. All births are beautiful and your body didnt fail you. I had an emergency c section with my first baby and it was an overall horrific experience. It took a long time for me to come to terms with. It takes time, but I promise you'll feel like yourself again and you will be able to push all that guilt aside.

I had a c section and I was wishing to have a c section. Please don’t feel guilty. Your body did not fail you at all.

So much of medicine force people to have babies at a pre determined time.

My dad was over 4 weeks overdue and my nonna had to push him out.

I’ve had two c-sections now, first emergency second failed vbac. I feel the guilt everyday keep telling myself I need to get therapy 😅xx