Having kids with a bigger age gap

Coming from someone with older siblings and I have 5 the shortest of years between us is 5 years and I’m not very close with any of them I would like to be but unfortunately it’s not the case not sure if it’s because they still see me as a child being the youngest even tho I’m 22 almost 23 or what but that’s my experience

Honestly the age gap may make a difference in the early years but overall it does not in my opinion. I'm the youngest of 4 and I'm the closest with my oldest sibling who is a little over 6 years older. My kids are 5 years apart. Still very early to tell but I'm genuinely enjoying their gap. My son is playful with his little sister while independent.

I would say kids go through phases where they are close to their siblings and others where they aren’t close.
My husband and his brother are 18 months apart no other siblings and they aren’t close, never were. They are very different and wouldn’t ever speak if they weren’t blood related.
Have the kids you want, you can’t plan for if they will be close or not. You can try your best but ultimately it’s out of your control.

I’m 4yrs apart from my sister she’s 1yr apart from my next sister and my mum had a baby when I was 16 so I have a baby brother who’s just turned 23 lol. I’m close to all of them but esp my sisters we have a sister group chat and then we have a bigger extended fam group chat w 13 of us on there. He’s an electrician so every couple weeks comes by after work asks if we need anything done around the house I feed him dinner then he has a nap on my couch till about 9 😂 then he gets up and goes home. My house is always open coz one of them gonna just prance in anytime lol I was sick of them pressing the doorbell so now my door is just unlocked for them 😂 (I live on a quiet street anyway no cars come down unless they live here or visiting) we weren’t raised like that btw we became close as adults

My dad and his brother are 7 years apart. They’ve always been close as adults and especially so now that they’re both retired. 😊

My first two are 6 and 4 I’m pregnant now there’s a big gap between my last and this one

My sons are 7y/o and 3 mos ...l have no worries... because all my siblings r 2 years apart and we are grown strangers who once shared memories...my point is u never know anyways how life will turn out just pray and hope for the best 🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️

I have many siblings. we were all best friends growing up and we always had a built in buddy. Most of us are 2 years apart from the next. And there were 8 of us.
None of us really talk to each other anymore but that’s due to individual life choices.

My son is 10 and my daughter is 10 months. The hardest part was starting all over again with a baby after I started to get my independence back with my oldest.
He’s the best big brother to her and loves to help and play with her and he is her absolute favourite person.

I was 10 years older than my youngest brother and I loved taking him to places growing up. Taking him shopping for Xmas things like that. We’re still close now and he’s a great uncle to my kids whereas the brother a year difference in age we haven’t talked in years.
My sister is 4 years younger and we didn’t get on at all until she was around 18, now we’re best friends.

My partners brothers are 14 and 13 years older than him, and his sister is 5/6 years older than him and they’re all really close.

I just think it depends on the family and how close you guys all are 🥰

There are seven years difference with mine. There are benefits like I can leave my son at home while I take my daughter to gymnastics or play dates and birthday parties. I have been able to have 1-1 time with both of them. When they were younger we could do the parks, soft play, trampolining ect and they interacted more. My son is now a teenager and 16 so obviously spends a lot more time to himself. They have a typical sibling relationship.

I have an 8 yr old & pregnant now. I tried having a kid when my daughter was 4 & 5 but it didn’t happen and when we stopped trying and started focusing on other things we were hit with our surprise baby. Nonetheless, my daughter is super excited and I think it’s for the best.

Im also the baby of my siblings. 10 years apart from my brother and 8 years apart from my sister. I was closest with my brother and as an adult I barely talk to my sister. If my mom didn’t stay with her, I wouldn’t talk to her at all, sadly.

I’m 8 years older than my sister and we are not close in the slightest, or any of my younger brothers

I am close to my older brother who is 2 years older. But he is my only sibling who I lived with full time growing up so that may be why 🤷🏻‍♀️ idk

I wanted a 4 year age gap but it hasn’t worked out that way, we’ve been having issues with conceiving the last year and a half so if it happens eventually it will be a bigger age gap than what I hoped for as she’s 5 in March. But from friends/family I’ve talked to there is pros and cons to both xo

It may be trickier as kids but age gaps don't matter when they are adults! My dad and his sister are 8 years apart and keep in regular contact.
I think it also depends how interested your oldest is in having a sibling and if they want to take more of a care giving role in helping with the baby etc... that can bring them to be very close x

My sisters are 10 years older than me and we are amazingly close. Our mom passed away a few years ago and they have been with me every step of the way during my pregnancy like my mom would have been. My sister in laws baby has a 20 year age gap with their step brother and he helps them out every chance he gets because he loves being a big brother. Age gaps aren’t always bad it just depends on the family