Feeling guilt about gender disappointment - need honest mom persoective
I’m expecting my first baby and recently found out it’s a boy.
I feel bad even writing this, but I was secretly hoping for a girl. I always imagined raising a daughter — maybe because I share a close bond with my own mom, or because I pictured a mini version of me.
Now that I know it’s a boy, I’m happy he’s healthy, but I also feel sad and guilty for feeling this way.
Did any of you go through gender disappointment?
How did you process it and start bonding with your baby?
Please be kind — I just want to hear honest experiences and how you made peace with it. 💛
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I was hoping for a girl too at first, but having a boy is better than I could’ve imagined.🩵I’m so happy I had a boy!!
I was disappointed to know I'm having a boy. Like you, I always dreamed about raising a girl. But after talking to a few boy moms, I'm finally over my disappointment and looking forward to a healthy baby!
I was also disappointed when I found out I was having a boy. But as soon as I was pregnant I knew it was. But dad wanted a girl sooo bad and I wanted him to be happy. Now our 7 month old is our favorite dude in the world. Him and dad are best buds who wear matching outfits. Also I can just throw a baseball cap on him and call it a day instead of wrestling with hair bows! Ya gotta take your wins where you can find ‘em 😭
I was nervous when I found out my first was a boy but HOLY COW the mother son bond is amaziiiiiiing. You’re actually very very lucky 🥰🥰🥰 I’m pregnant again and I secretly
Hope it’s another boy but having a girl might be ok too idk haha
i’m having my second and having gender disappointment now because we are having a second boy. and it’s not that i’m not happy about two boys i’m mostly just sad that i feel like im missing out on something if i never have a girl. i also was SO convinced this one was a girl that i think i got myself too excited and planned too much in my head and now that’s all gone. i know it will be fine and perfect with my boys but right now im still processing and upset :/
Thank you everyone for responding ❤️
Now i know that I’m not the only one to feel this way. And It has been a few days since we knew the gender and now the feeling the sinking in slowly.
I was a child of disappointment. My dad wanted a boy to be the first born and he held it over me. No I'm kind of expecting a girl but if it's a boy I know I might be a little disappointed mainly having to adjust expectations but don't hold that disappointment over your child you will be ok. It's devastating and so hard to live with because I was born a disappointment and continued to be one in his eyes.
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