Separation anxiety
My partner is an alcoholic. We have a child together and his drinking is a hard thing for me. He says he got it controlled but recently he started drinking a lot again. He said he’s stopping but he’s said that the last couple days. His mental state in insane when he’s drinking constantly. I worry for the safety of my child. Any guidance on how this works in court? He’s had a consistent pattern of relapse and says he’s never going to be completely sober. He said he’s not risking relapsing because he doesn’t want to lose his child but his drinking anyways is a relapse right?
How strict are they on addiction in the state of Fl? Will I lose my child if I file for sole custody and he petitions for half custody? I’ve stayed because that is my fear but he is extremely emotionally and mentally abusive. He doesn’t care for the child and in his face he’s starting to look sick from the constant drinking this last week. He says it was only a few beers each day but he can’t handle that and slowly starts drinking more
Advice?
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When filing I would file for a protection order due to his drinking and any evidence of his drinking as well like bank records showing the buying of videos and pictures of the empty bottles. And you would not lose custody if you file most states have automatic rules for divorce petition so I would start with your state page and from what my family in Florida has told me they are pretty strict on substance abuse. But they need proof of the use. And the drinking is a relapse.
Take the baby and go to your parents house after telling him to go get some help. Word it like you want him to be able to be there for your child as they grow up and see if that helps? If you are worried for your life or your child’s it’s really not safe to stay.
He’s in complete denial. Doesn’t think he has a problem and says it controlled. I’ve got pictures of empty drink cans over the years and marked down dates that he smelled of alcohol. We have the same doctor and that told helped me through my distress of the drinking.
You have to do what’s best for you and your baby. Go talk to a lawyer to get advice.
Your partner already told you they won’t change… you have to believe them.
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