Non-affectionate baby (hates touching)
Hey guys, my baby is one year old. She hates being touched. I can’t brush her hair, I can’t tie her hair, I can’t get a hug or a smooch on the cheek even. Even when holding her she struggles to get away from me like she’s in a hurry to go somewhere 😂
I see so many people with their babies who love to be snuggled or who loved to lay in their parents laps etc and I wonder what I’m doing wrong.
Is this just how some babies are?
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Just how some babies are, my baby jas always been the same, shes 19 months now and its rare we get hugs just because. Its always because shes tired.
I've worked in childcare for nearly 20 years, and this doesn't sound normal to me. I'd be consulting with a Paediatrician. There could be multiple reasons for her sensitivity to touch and affection.
My son was affectionate as a baby but went through phases where he didnt want to be touched and would move away or ignore us. He has never liked his hair being touched; brushing it, putting it up, getting it out of his face, washing it, cutting it, are just varying degrees of difficult or near impossible. He is autistic.
You've noticed something that's a potential concern, follow your gut.
My son is also 1, They are practicing boundaries! I always respect my son’s boundaries to make sure he knows that his word matters and no means no, no matter who you are. If I lean in for a kiss and he turns his head away I say sorry! Mommy just wanted to love on you but it’s okay to say no thank you! He tells me when he wants to be held by extending his arms or crawling into my lap! He’s learned very much that it’s okay to say no in this way and having boundaries is healthy! If it’s constant ask your PED by all means it could be indicators of something else if she never actually seeks attention in the form of affection herself!
Mine is same unless he wants to be held but if I sit down and hold him he wants to get away from me lol, only time I get snuggles is when he’s poorly
My son (almost 3) has been like this since birth (except when he's sick then he'll sometimes cuddle up), he will give his stuffies kisses though and it makes us so jealous 😃 it's just his personality and it's hard to accept sometimes but other than that he's fine he's doing great in daycare and socializing
Our oldest has always been that way. He was eventually diagnosed level 3 ASD. Our youngest doesn't mind snuggles, but it has to be on his terms. He's a super active, constantly on the go kiddo though too. Really doesn't like sitting still for too long.
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