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First time mums

Preventing contact with my family?

Im not sure whether I should do this or not. I want my daughter to have a close family relationship with my stepmum, and my biological family, but none of them make effort.

I'll cut a long story short but my mum abandoned me when I was 13. I went to live with my dad and stepmum. They got divorced and she got remarried but always stayed part of my life as she and my dad had my sister.

Anyway, now im a mum I realise how little effort any of my bio family made after I went through a lot of trauma. They didnt even call on milestone birthdays like my 21st. I used to think my stepmum was great for replacing my mum, but now im a mum I realised she did the "i put a roof over your head and fed you" attitude. She does the dutifull "mum" role for appearances. She doesnt ask about my daughter. She will go on family holidays with my little sister and me and my little one are never invited. She said some pretty toxic things ive realised now im older.

So ive decided I want nothing to do with any of them. How can I cut contact when they are in the same town? Id move but i cant afford to do that right now.