SAHM with a blue collar Husband

At this point I’m used to being alone from 5 am to 6:30/7pm 5-6 days a week but it can become kinda lonely and the house definitely can be overwhelming sometimes . Here in a few weeks my husbands gonna do his first travel job he’s normally a hr and a half away but he’s about to be in a hotel 5 days a week bc the job site is 3hrs away and it’s a 6 month job . I did encourage it for the pay and bc if he’s gonna do it it’s better to do it while we have a toddler and I’m pregnant vs after our little is born but we didn’t realize how long they’d hold off that travel job when he agreed otherwise he’d have turned it down most likely . PPD hit me hard the first time around so I’m a little worried about doing it alone night and day FT

Oof mama, my heart really goes out to you. That level of exhaustion and carrying everything on your own is so heavy, and it makes total sense you’re feeling lonely and overwhelmed. No one can pour from an empty cup, and you deserve support that actually shows up and not just in words.

One thing that’s helped me (and a lot of moms I know) is having one clear conversation where you explain what’s slipping through the cracks for you, and then choosing one or two specific tasks he can take over without you having to ask every time. It takes some pressure off you and gives him something concrete to show up for. For us it was dinner and bath nights. He cooks dinner Tuesdays and every meal on Saturdays.

Another thing that helps is setting tiny pockets of time where you get a break, even if it’s 15 minutes for a shower, walk, or just to breathe. You’re not meant to do every part of this alone.

I really hope you get the support you need, because you deserve to feel held too. ❤️

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