No ‘village’
I’m not sure if this is the right place to post this kind of topic but curious to see if anyone else is in the same boat and get some advice!
My partner and I have 2 (almost 3) children and whilst we both love being parents we have no support network..
Most of our friends have their parents helping out throughout the week or other family members and none of ours are particularly interested in our children (which is sad).
Whilst I love being a mummy I have found in the last year or so that I feel trapped, I don’t seem to have a social life without my children being involved. I feel guilty at the thought of leaving my kids to have life outside of just being a mum.
My partner keeps telling me to arrange something but the last time I took our eldest child out to the cinema and he stayed at home with our youngest he called me after 2 hours saying she had been screaming the entire time!
I feel emotionally drained every single day and most days I dread getting up and having another day dealing with tantrums or having to hear “mummy” 65000 times in a day. It is unequivocally exhausting.
I want to enjoy motherhood and wake up looking forward to spending the day with my kids but it seems to be getting on top of me.
Any advice?…
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There is no village, it's a myth! I was told when you have your baby, when they start nursery, when they start school....well it's not happening! My family is quite absent, definitely not as involved as they were for my niece. Even when we do see them they don't play with him, don't seem to have much time .
I wish I had advice....I try to get out more myself and make an effort, even if it's just a lunch with a friend. But it's not very often and then you have the guilt that you've gone out 🤦🏼♀️ just no winning!
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