In laws!
I'm a mum of 2 young girls and currently 17weeks pregnant with baby 3. I live with in laws who are very very tonix. I've expressed to them all over the last 12 months I need to move out as I cannot be dealing with the issues and expectations anymore. After Christmas I had a huge argument with my mil, I left the house with my children and my husband came too. The next day my fil called us back. I broke down and expressed I cant do this anymore, I need my own place.
My husband supports me but doesn't want to move out. He feels stuck in the middle.
I resent my mil, I don't even want to talk to her, my husband is trying to force me to speak to her.
I don't know what to do anymore.
Ive said to my husband and fil I need help to move out of this house in the next 2 months otherwise I'll be leaving on my own accord, even if it means going back to my maternal home
I feel down everyday, I don't feel happy and I just cry when im alone.
Sorry just trying to get my feelings out as I don't know what to do anymore
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I am so sorry you are going through this. I’ve been in a similar situation for almost 5 years but hubby and I have been working hard to save to get out. He is the only son but I’m his chosen family. If your hubby can’t put you and your kids first then you know what to do
Ive been here for 5 years nearly too. But ive just had enough, trying to save, but we're constantly paying out for this family then they throw in our faces 'we don't know where your money goes' but they're okay to eat it away.
My parents are involved now, who unfortunately would help us get a house but they are just working class people themselves whereas my in laws are able to help but choose not to due to controlling and narcissist behaviour
I’m so sorry this happening to you. It’s a shame in our culture this is so normal. I understand you husband is in the middle however if things continue the relationship you have with in-laws may not exist causing more being in the middle for your husband. Would be right to move now and try and be as amicable so you can still be family in your homes. I used to work as a New home Sales advisor if you need any advise buying a new home (if you don’t have full deposit etc) for the your sake and children (who shouldn’t be in a toxic household) stability and a home is key
So sorry to hear this. In laws can be so bloody awful. Completely agree that you have to leave, with or without your husband. Your kids deserve to grow up in a house with a happy mum. You deserve to live happily in the way that you want, and you definitely don’t need this stress whilst pregnant
In defence of your husband, these men are conditioned to think that they have to do everything for their parents. It’s completely fucked up. But he should be able to see what this is doing to you.
Please reach out if you ever want a chat or even just to rant. Or keep updating this thread so we know you’re safe ❤️
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