Am I Being Jealous
My man had kids before he met me but 2 of them wasn’t around when I got with him. Fast forward to 7 years one has been coming around. He says the bm always wanted to make it work with him. One of his bm he wasn’t coparenting with for his son but when his son was in the 8th grade he didn’t walk out with his son because he didn’t want to be near her. The daughter that just started coming around ask him to walk out with her and her mom he said yes! Then the bm proceeds to ask what size he wear because she was going to buy shirts. He asked me how I felt about it but it’s like you know she loves social media and the fact y’all just started communicating and this going to be put all over. I felt some type of way because one you couldn’t do it for your son for two you know how your bm is and it makes me feel awkward. Am I being insecure
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He sounds like a bum.
I think this is more about your relationship in general. I think youre being insecure but not because of this example. It kinda seems there is a deeper distrust based on his baby mamas and how he is treating his kids. No advice but maybe reflect on how you can fix that
He says I need to stop with the feelings because it doesn’t mean it’s facts like that’s why it’s called feelings like you don’t have to agree with them but they’re valid
I wouldn’t be happy about it but I’d shut up and put a smile on as he’s doing it for his kid. I’d also be attending whatever the event is 😇
You said he is a decent guy and followed up with more reasons why he isn't
Why can’t she get you a shirt as well
It’s sounds like there’s more context to why you’re having said feelings and upset. But this instance I think isn’t the time to “die on your hill” so to speak, because it’s for the kids. You’ve said he’s a decent guy, if he’s coparenting properly not crossing any boundaries and being respectful of your relationship. As you said, your feelings are valid because you feel them, but I can also understand his side. Being stressed about not upsetting you, but be there for his children while also working around/with said ex BM.
But if he’s not decent, and also ignores your children at home and doesn’t help you as a father; now we have more going on, ya know?
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