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Inlaws, family, & venting

Taking care of inlaws??

So my partner has older parents than mine. Probably about 10 years older. And they’re not really financially responsible to an extent. I feel like their priorities are wrong and they’re not really focused on paying off their house. My partner says yeah when they get older I’m gonna have to take care of them. And I get like checking on your parents make sure they’re going to their appointments and stuff. But this is more of like oh I have to take care of them financially as if him and his siblings were groomed to be their cash flow in old age. They still expect their house paid and their bills paid. And for me I personally think it’s wrong, me and my partner often get into arguments when talking about the situation. Because my parents have a plan, a plan for a retirement. And a plan to make sure that we don’t have to provide for them in old age. What are your thoughts on the situation because I’m kind of mixed between it? I feel like we can help if we have like the excess money but we are barely getting by as it is. We do not live in the same state of his parents so I don’t know how else is he supposed to take care of them? I personally feel like it’s wrong to put that kind of pressure on your kids when they’re off starting families they have to support.