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First time mums

Am I wrong to be annoyed

Let me start by saying, I love my husband and he is very helpful. But recently our baby has been hitting the 4 month regression hard. Barely sleeping at night and waking every 30-45 minutes. She won’t sleep in her bassinet anymore and only in my arms. My husband works shift work so some times he is home in the morning and I’ll ask him to take the first wake window (about 1.5hours) then put her down for a nap. Every time he acts like I need to draw up a play by play of what to do with her even though I communicate regularly on the babies schedule. Then he slowly wakes up at that point I’ve been up for 20 mins and know it’ll take me. While to get back to sleep. He doesn’t turn on as quickly as moms have to so I will chat with the awake baby. Then as soon as she is down he hands me a coffee and the baby monitor and he goes back to bed. It’s so frustrating like be awake for the day. He knows I’m now gonna have to be with the bay until after she’s asleep solo. Like I get he has work but this is work too and I have just been up all night. I’m exhausted and could use. The extra hands when she’s up from her nap (which are 30-45 mins right now) or would lil to sleep until her next feed. I intentionally don’t wake him in the night because her crying or fussing wakes me up and we both don’t need to be tired. I’m just extra annoyed, and sleep deprived that he gets to go back to bed and I have to be on baby duty solo when he is around and slept way more and better than I.