Am I overreacting?
For the first 2.5 years of my daughter’s life I’ve been the primary parent, doing almost everything for her. Since baby (now 6m) was born, my husband has taken over care for our eldest as I breastfeed and he shows little interest in caring for baby. He’s since FINALLY developed a close bond where he actually WANTS to do everything with our eldest. That’s great, sure, but I feel like she has become his whole world. He pays very little attention to me and even less to our baby. This morning I was waking our eldest up and he swoops into the room and picks her up and covers her in kisses etc etc. Zero regard for me or baby who was also in the room. Like where is our good morning hug and kiss? This is after speaking to him only two nights ago about my concern of his lack of affection for me etc. I’m annoyed
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You’re not overreacting. I would be equally annoyed. And that’s after speaking to him? Yikes. Idk what his problem is. I’m glad he’s finally helping and with the toddler but the love needs to be spread around better than that.
I would say you want to avoid overreacting to this, the older sibling can get ignored when a new baby comes so it’s very good that he’s making a fuss of her. It sounds like he has great intentions.
I wouldn’t be a drama llama over this I’d just mention that mummy and baby need kisses too. I’d also give him kudos for stepping up with the older one, so that you’re praising the good as well as pulling up on what needs improve
Not normal or ok. I would be extremely upset too. My husband has done his best to split his attention and affection between our 2 daughters ever since our 2nd daughter was born.
Have you asked your partner how he feels? Just wondering if he could have felt like when you had your first that all your attention went into that baby and now he has found a place to pour into?
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